In the first part we discussed five of the top ten myths about Kundalini awakening. You can read these here. Here are the last five myths:
6. Kundalini is all about bliss. Many people hear about Kundalini awakenings and associate it with a feeling of bliss, or have heard about spontaneous orgasms that can occur. While there is a certain amount of bliss that does occur, especially in later stages of Kundalini, for most Kundalini-ites the moments of bliss are few and far between. Simply put, there is lots and lots of trauma, emotions, thoughts, belief structures, and more locked in our physical bodies. When we begin awakening these come up to process. This is often a difficult process, and is out of our control. We can be sitting in bed and all of a sudden recollect and process our birth, or a bad incident that happened when we were five, or the time we broke our leg, complete with physical sensations, emotions, and energies coming up for us to resolve and integrate. We then may have a taste of bliss, or we may be really exhausted.
We may also experience bliss when we are “dancing”- when a wave of Kundalini is so strong that our limbs, our bodies begin shaking and moving intensely and spontaneously. Even in total surrender there is some fear (especially at first if you do not know what is happening) but even in later stages there can be simple fear of safety- such as ensuring that you are in a safe environment so you do not hurt yourself before our body movements or consciousness is overwhelmed and we can no longer respond as we normally would for a period of time.
Most people associate the “bliss” of Kundalini with the reports of spontaneous orgasms. This is what happens when your first chakra opens a bit, your Kundalini emerges, and you have a huge amount of fire in your first chakra. We live in an oddly puritanical yet at the same time have a generally sex-based sex-starved consciousness. As a society we think that the Kama Sutra should be all about the pictures, that Tantra is all about the long period of sex, and are generally disempowered sexually to think that any sort of body centered human, primal sexual drives are deviant. This also means that our minds flip to a sort of odd addictive seeking state where we desire anything orgasmic, including spiritual experiences. Although this may not make sense to everyone, this sort of dual thinking, it is pervasive if we look at sexuality and anything spiritual. Tantra is turned into prostitution rings, women turn into “Goddesses” because the thought of identifying with our own human sexual drives, our own bodies and its inherent primal nature doesn’t happen until we are fairly awake. But I digress. The point is that spontaneous orgasms are more about heat in the first chakra than anything. This type of bliss is more about our own sexual, primal drives momentarily being awakened than anything. And having orgasms through spiritual awakening sounds wonderful until they happen in the middle of a grocery store.
So if we were to sum up, bliss does happen during a Kundalini awakening. It is really flickering unless you are in later stages though, and is not the type of sexual thrill that most report through their momentary exploration of heat in their first chakra. Most people who are going through a Kundalini awakening have not awoken it past the second or third chakra, and those who have awoken further know that bliss and contrary states, such as fear, or pain, or rage, can occur simultaneously. And looking to awaken your “bliss” through having a Kundalini awakening is like going to a “Tantric” practitioner who advertises on Craigslist.
7. Kundalini awakenings can start from anywhere, like the crown. Kundalini awakenings always start from the root chakra. That is where the “coiled snake” is dormant, that is where it arises from. That is what a Kundalini awakening is. It is possible to have a partial Kundalini rising through secondary channels- through Ida and Pingala (you can read about Kundalini energetics and pathways here) but these are also in the lower body, and are actually a significant and problematic energetic dysfunction that needs to be corrected by rerouting energy and an opening of dormant Kundalini at the base of the spine.
In our world any big spiritual experience is currently called a Kundalini awakening. This is because of a basic surface level understanding of most spiritual phenomena that is present, and the fact that we live in a materialist sort of culture and Kundalini is known as a big rather loud energy and a huge spiritual experience so people want it. The irony here is that people who actually have Kundalini awakenings go through intense suffering, and if the “aspirational” Kundalini-ites knew what an actual Kundalini awakening was like they simply wouldn’t want it.
A lot of people simply do not have the language or have not done the research to understand that they are not going through a Kundalini awakening, and that they may be having an entirely different spiritual experience, such as channeling, astral projection, disassociation due to trauma, possession states, psychic abilities, or a Top-Down awakening (read about that here). Many people have opened their crown chakra or third eye through various workshops and spiritual activities. This is not a Kundalini awakening, although it is possible to have a Kundalini awakening and a Top-Down awakening happening at the same time (and actually happens quite regularly).
8. You can control Kundalini. Unfortunately the answer to this is a resounding no. I love the Zen proverb “let go or be dragged” because it perfectly describes the Kundalini experience. Anyone who believes that they can control Kundalini simply hasn’t experienced a Kundalini awakening. It would be like putting yourself in the middle of a volcanic eruption and thinking really hard or waving your hands to stop lava pouring out at you. It just doesn’t happen. Frequently people do not let go, and are dragged by their experiences, which is not suggested and is very painful. By surrendering the Kundalini experience gets better. Kundalini awakenings teach a lot about control, and how little we actually have. It is actually very freeing after a certain point. But before that point we endlessly create rules and belief structures and think we can control Kundalini, that we can control divinity itself.
9. You can stop a Kundalini awakening. Unfortunately the answer to this is also “no”. I have worked with a lot of people at this point who have been to well-meaning healers who “teach” people how to stop their Kundalini, or treat it as anything from a possession state to mental illness to an energetic aberration that must be “fixed”. This causes a lot of chaos, pain, and emotional/spiritual damage and trauma to the experiencer of the Kundalini awakening. What can be done is to process whatever is coming up, to surrender, to let go and let God, so to speak. There are specific tools that can be taught, understandings that can be had to come into better alignment and have a better relationship with Kundalini. Once you are out of your first three chakras things typically improve a bit, or at least are not so physical in scope, and you have a better perspective of the process. There are teachers, such as myself, who can help you learn these skills. There are also many healers, such as CranioSacral therapists, who remain in a neutral, witness state to help you process energy and the trauma, emotions, etc. that are coming up.
10. A Kundalini awakening is always difficult and horrible. A lot of people who have done basic research on Kundalini come across two things. The first is people who have no idea what they are talking about espousing the various memes of what a Kundalini awakening is like- that it is a bliss and orgasms and that you go into some sort of hippie oneness state through it, or that for only X amount of money they can give you one. When you do more research you find the accounts of people who have had the worst sort of Kundalini awakenings- the near death experiences, the sickness, the divorces, the upheaval of your entire existence. Basically, the horror stories. I always joke that if you look up your symptoms on Web MD you are going to diagnose yourself with cancer. This is kind of the same thing. Kundalini awakenings are difficult to traverse. But there is good and bad. Some people who have had years of bodywork, therapy, and meditation practice tend to have less difficult awakenings. They have the understanding level and the body consciousness to navigate it reasonably well and have likely worked through some of their trauma. People who have had a lot of trauma, have not worked on themselves, have not even meditated or had any interest in spirituality there can be a steep learning curve and a lot of difficulties.
But the interesting thing about Kundalini, about any spiritual process really, is that it is difficult. For everyone, especially in the beginning, but also ten or twenty years down the path. It is isolating- not many people will understand you and you will see and feel and understand too much. But it is also breathtaking, and beautiful, and leads to expanded spiritual states, complete body awareness and integration, and a resolution of trauma and patterns that block most from seeing the world for what it is. It allows for us to work through everything that obscures who we truly are, and to let go of all our patterns, our beliefs, our thoughts, and the thoughts, beliefs, patterns of our families, our ancestors, past lives, society, the world. This is both difficult and wondrous. Not one or the other. Both…
Mary Shutan helps people going through spiritual experiences, such as Kundalini, to develop tools and understandings to navigate their experiences. She sees patients worldwide through individualized consultations and for spiritual healing, and has developed intensive programs for people seeking the tools and skills to live in the world while undergoing Kundalini/Spiritual Awakenings or dealing with Psychic Abilities and Sensitivities. You can contact her here.