In my new book, Managing Psychic Abilities (which will be out in a few months, but is available for pre-order now), I talk about how approximately 20 percent of the population would be considered “sensitive”.
Being sensitive basically means that you can see or sense more than most of the population (so if you are a part of the twenty percent, you would notice more than eighty percent of the population… this is of course very generalized for the purposes of this blog). In the book I divide this twenty percent into “highly sensitive”, “mildly psychic”, “moderately psychic” and “highly psychic” categories based off of my observations of the general population as well as working with sensitive and psychic individuals now for over a decade (and also, figuring out my own sensitivities).
As I talk about quite a bit, the difficulty with our society in general is that 80 percent of people are not “highly sensitive”… and so society is generally built around the majority and what they see/sense/feel… and everything from what is considered “normal” to how someone should act, function, and what they should want is built around this idea of normalcy… or someone that is around the 50 percent/average (sigh, actually slightly lower, but I am making a point) and how they function and what they are in this world.
The reason that this is so difficult is that people who are not sensitive, or who are in the “highly sensitive” category (but not some of the psychic categories) will want to become more sensitive or psychic.
And people who are highly sensitive or psychic often go through large segments of their lives either ignoring, pretending they are not sensitive or psychic, or are unable to find the tools and skills that they need to manage their sensitivities (rather than, say, become more sensitive).
If you look on any bookshelf, you will see this clearly illustrated. 99 percent of the books and resources out there are for people who want to become more sensitive or psychic, and not the 5 percent or so of the population (the “psychic” part, as many people who are highly sensitive are part of the “aspirational” community who wish to have more spiritual experiences or become more sensitive/psychic) who needs to manage and understand their sensitivities/already manifested psychic abilities.
This is why I designed my courses, by the way. The Clearing Course and the Discernment course were both based off of me not finding the information I needed to help me… or finding it in many disparate and far-flung reaches of the world and compiling it together to be of benefit to myself (and eventually, others). So people now get the benefit of my twenty some odd year search for answers, which I am grateful for, as people now don’t have to go through what I did to find those answers and can learn to work with their sensitivities and psychic abilities in a five or eight week course format.
But I have found other tools along the way, tools that were helpful for me (and continue to be helpful for me as well as others I suggest them to). I will chat about them below, and why they are so helpful:
- Meditation: this is always one that people know about, but if you are sensitive (and especially if you are in the highly or moderately psychic categories, which means that you are basically in the 5 percent rather than the twenty… I talk about all this criteria in the book, by the way) you really need to meditate. Daily. I know it seems like a pain, but if you are a sensitive and do daily meditation (even just 10 minutes) for a month, you will notice you feel much better and are less overwhelmed
- Progressive Relaxation Meditation: People who are sensitive and are not taking care of themselves properly (are unskilled, or don’t know how to work with their abilities yet) are often out of their bodies and really on edge. Their nervous systems are freaked out, basically. This interferes with sleep as well as creates anxiety, fear, and just general discomfort. Progressive relaxation allows for your body to release stress through the body over time, and chill out the nervous system
- Mantras: People who have never meditated (I also include people who have tried meditation once or twice and it “didn’t work” or people who have meditated once last year and twice this year with no regular routine) often do well with mantras. Chanting or repeating words or phrases in your mind cuts out all of the mental chatter that happens when you are inexperienced with meditation. Finding a mantra is a deeply personal process, but even if you just chant “om” (or “ohm”) many times as a start, it is a start, and you will notice benefits.
- More thoughts on Meditation: If you have never had a regular practice before (which I consider a month of daily practice) I suggest starting with the “Oprah and Deepak” meditation thing. It runs fairly frequently, and while I have mixed emotions about both Oprah and Deepak, they really are perfect for this sort of thing, and can get you into experiencing a regular practice (I believe it is 21 days) so you can start to see the benefits
- Yoga, Qi Gong, Tai Chi, and Movement: So running and aerobic activities have their place, but sensitives have a tendency to get energy stuck in their bodies (we all do, but I will explain further). Energy gets stuck in the joints and crevices of our bodies. Exercises that have you doing the same thing over and over release energy, but do not allow for full range of motion, or more simply, all sorts of stuck energy flowing through the body. One of the biggest difficulties for sensitives is that they take on a lot of energy, and if there is not proper flow through the body, it gets stuck. It gets stuck in the head, the digestive tract, the muscles. By moving your body through its ranges of motion (and bonus, adding a meditative and breath-oriented practice to it) energy can properly flow.
- There are of course some forms of yoga that have been entirely Westernized, and are basically aerobics now. Finding a good yoga studio and teacher as well as style is also a personal thing. I tend to like basic Hatha for beginners, and then Yin or Iyengar for those who are really looking for long-standing changes in their bodies and minds.
- Sensory Deprivation (Float) Tanks: I love float tanks. I will say if you are claustrophobic that this is not an appropriate option for you, as you are enclosed, naked, in a small tank for 60 or 90 minutes. Float tanks have options for light and sound. I suggest simply being in darkness (no light or sound) if you are comfortable doing so. Float tanks take you out of gravity- your body floats. Your body can not only take in likely desperately needed silence and lack of sensory input, but having the opportunity to do so allows for you to process your own stuff and make leaps forward on your spiritual path. After each float tank I notice that I release heavy energies, emotions (both my own as well as ones that I have accumulated from others), thoughts, and so forth. I used to do a float tank about every other week, but now I do it once a month, and it truly is a life-saver for me. People do report journeys and visions and all that sort of stuff… and I certainly have experienced them… but for me, the ability to release tons of energy and be in a place with little to no sensory input is incredibly necessary and what I utilize the tanks for.
- Spiritual Bathing: Anyone who knows me knows that I love spiritual bathing. Learning how to do so properly, such as through my Clearing course, is one of those tools that can be learned that can be of great benefit to any sensitive/psychic. Proper energetic hygiene, and learning how to do it, is a vital and neglected skill (and can be learned in this course)
- CranioSacral Therapy: I am a huge proponent of CranioSacral therapy for sensitives. The reason for this is that it is a light-touch modality that works with the spectrum of mind-body-spirit. It is non-forceful and client (you) directed. If you find an “Upledger” variety therapist (someone who has studied with that school) they may also be able to help you talk to your body (SomatoEmotional Release) in order to release emotions and energies through the body. If the person is “Biodynamic” oriented (the other major school) it relies more on a “witness” state, and can tap into deep spiritual energies that flow through the body.
- The difficulty with CranioSacral therapy, or any form of bodywork, is finding someone who you mesh with personality-wise who also has the appropriate training and spiritual cultivation. There is an unfortunate tendency (like what has happened with Acupuncture) to have really reductionist people who do not believe in “spirit” or “energy” who practice, or people who simply aren’t trained (have taken a weekend course or two) who are offering the service. I always suggest looking for someone who is certified, who has 5-10 years of experience (with CranioSacral therapy), and who feels comfortable working with highly sensitive individuals (you can assess their energy or simply outright ask them if they feel comfortable working with highly sensitive individuals and see what their answer is)
- Zero Balancing: Zero Balancing is another form of bodywork that is extremely helpful for sensitives. It works with deep energies in the body (currents that move through bone), and can not only help energy flow through the body (similar to yoga and so forth) and release tensions deep in the body, but can allow for the sensitive to feel grounded and embodied. Work can be done, for example, on all of the tiny bones in the feet (which tend to be quite rigid energetically) to allow for grounding as well as proper energetic cycling between your physical body/feet and the Earth. Since it does work on a “bone” level, it can also release energies such as ancestral/family energies
- Bodywork in general: No doubt people will say to me “I don’t have a CranioSacral therapist in my area” or you may not have one that is skilled or that you resonate with. It happens. There are a lot of different forms of bodywork that can help. The key is really finding someone that is really skilled and experienced at what they do… so much so that it is a calling for them. They study it on weekends, have books by their nightstand, and so forth. There are so many different forms of bodywork and massage out there, and the key here is finding someone who is passionate, experienced, highly skilled, and “spiritual”. Meaning that they consider bodywork to be a form of art, a spiritual practice (rather than a manual release of built up whatever in the body). You can typically tell this by their bio, or by their energy (really “spiritual” sorts have a lot of peace and stillness to them that happens after proper cultivation/discipline).
- We lack proper non-sexual touch in our culture. Being touched can allow for us to not feel alone or isolated. It can allow for us to share our grief, our pain, with others. It can allow for us to feel seen. We all get stuck in our patterns, our thoughts, our varying pains. Working with a bodyworker, or visiting one when we feel “stuck” can allow for us to more readily get through whatever we are experiencing. Shared pain is lessened pain, and some patterns and pains really need to be witnessed by someone else to be properly released.
- Nature: Another expected one, but someone who is sensitive really needs the regular release that walks in the woods, or up a mountain, can provide. I think that we all need this, sensitive or not, but connecting to the beauty of the world, and allowing for release through communing with nature, is vital to the sensitive.
- Artistic expression: I get a lot of questions about things like anger, and fear, and how to express them properly. Emotions and the sort of “darkness” that most of us shy away from are linked to our creative energies, and are best addressed through artistic expression. Painting, dancing, writing, speaking, singing, anything that allows for you to sit with your emotion (for example, rage) or that part of you that is coming through that you keep on pushing down (the inner teenager, the “dark” parts of you) and give it an appropriate outlet.
There are a lot more “skills” that can be learned by the psychic and sensitive. I also obviously suggest spiritual work for sensitives with a competent spiritual healer. I will also say that the release of trauma is critical for the sensitive to understand who they are and what their sensitivities are clearly (without a bunch of beliefs and understandings created out of illusion or trauma). Simply put, a lot of sensitives think that their difficulties in this world are a result of them being sensitive, when really it is a result of trauma. Trauma that could be healed. I do realize that people don’t like to consider this, as using words like “empath” or “sensitive” in our culture means that we can pin a lot of illusions on them… but healing of trauma (either related to sensitivities or not) is really what is necessary for all sensitives to be able to accept their sensitivities as well as manage them properly.
There also really is proper training that is needed for the “non-aspirational” sensitive or psychic to be able to understand and manage their abilities, but these practices (even if you just choose a few) will allow for there to be more peace, better managing of energy, and the release of what doesn’t serve you. Being “sensitive” can be a beautiful thing in this world, but there is a lack of proper understanding and nurturing for the sensitive to really learn how to thrive in our culture. Learn how to nurture yourself, and develop skills, so sensitivities can be a thing of beauty instead of a constant drain on your resources and energy– it is well worth it to do so.