psychic abilities

Resources for Sensitives and Psychics

In my new book, Managing Psychic Abilities (which will be out in a few months, but is available for pre-order now), I talk about how approximately 20 percent of the population would be considered “sensitive”.

Being sensitive basically means that you can see or sense more than most of the population (so if you are a part of the twenty percent, you would notice more than eighty percent of the population… this is of course very generalized for the purposes of this blog). In the book I divide this twenty percent into “highly sensitive”, “mildly psychic”, “moderately psychic” and “highly psychic” categories based off of my observations of the general population as well as working with sensitive and psychic individuals now for over a decade (and also, figuring out my own sensitivities).

As I talk about quite a bit, the difficulty with our society in general is that 80 percent of people are not “highly sensitive”… and so society is generally built around the majority and what they see/sense/feel… and everything from what is considered “normal” to how someone should act, function, and what they should want is built around this idea of normalcy… or someone that is around the 50 percent/average (sigh, actually slightly lower, but I am making a point) and how they function and what they are in this world.

The reason that this is so difficult is that people who are not sensitive, or who are in the “highly sensitive” category (but not some of the psychic categories) will want to become more sensitive or psychic. 

And people who are highly sensitive or psychic often go through large segments of their lives either ignoring, pretending they are not sensitive or psychic, or are unable to find the tools and skills that they need to manage their sensitivities (rather than, say, become more sensitive).

If you look on any bookshelf, you will see this clearly illustrated. 99 percent of the books and resources out there are for people who want to become more sensitive or psychic, and not the 5 percent or so of the population (the “psychic” part, as many people who are highly sensitive are part of the “aspirational” community who wish to have more spiritual experiences or become more sensitive/psychic) who needs to manage and understand their sensitivities/already manifested psychic abilities.

This is why I designed my courses, by the way. The Clearing Course and the Discernment course were both based off of me not finding the information I needed to help me… or finding it in many disparate and far-flung reaches of the world and compiling it together to be of benefit to myself (and eventually, others). So people now get the benefit of my twenty some odd year search for answers, which I am grateful for, as people now don’t have to go through what I did to find those answers and can learn to work with their sensitivities and psychic abilities in a five or eight week course format.


But I have found other tools along the way, tools that were helpful for me (and continue to be helpful for me as well as others I suggest them to). I will chat about them below, and why they are so helpful:

  • Meditation: this is always one that people know about, but if you are sensitive (and especially if you are in the highly or moderately psychic categories, which means that you are basically in the 5 percent rather than the twenty… I talk about all this criteria in the book, by the way) you really need to meditate. Daily. I know it seems like a pain, but if you are a sensitive and do daily meditation (even just 10 minutes) for a month, you will notice you feel much better and are less overwhelmed
    • Progressive Relaxation Meditation: People who are sensitive and are not taking care of themselves properly (are unskilled, or don’t know how to work with their abilities yet) are often out of their bodies and really on edge. Their nervous systems are freaked out, basically. This interferes with sleep as well as creates anxiety, fear, and just general discomfort. Progressive relaxation allows for your body to release stress through the body over time, and chill out the nervous system
    • Mantras: People who have never meditated (I also include people who have tried meditation once or twice and it “didn’t work” or people who have meditated once last year and twice this year with no regular routine) often do well with mantras. Chanting or repeating words or phrases in your mind cuts out all of the mental chatter that happens when you are inexperienced with meditation. Finding a mantra is a deeply personal process, but even if you just chant “om” (or “ohm”) many times as a start, it is a start, and you will notice benefits.
    • More thoughts on Meditation: If you have never had a regular practice before (which I consider a month of daily practice) I suggest starting with the “Oprah and Deepak” meditation thing. It runs fairly frequently, and while I have mixed emotions about both Oprah and Deepak, they really are perfect for this sort of thing, and can get you into experiencing a regular practice (I believe it is 21 days) so you can start to see the benefits
  • Yoga, Qi Gong, Tai Chi, and Movement: So running and aerobic activities have their place, but sensitives have a tendency to get energy stuck in their bodies (we all do, but I will explain further). Energy gets stuck in the joints and crevices of our bodies. Exercises that have you doing the same thing over and over release energy, but do not allow for full range of motion, or more simply, all sorts of stuck energy flowing through the body. One of the biggest difficulties for sensitives is that they take on a lot of energy, and if there is not proper flow through the body, it gets stuck. It gets stuck in the head, the digestive tract, the muscles. By moving your body through its ranges of motion (and bonus, adding a meditative and breath-oriented practice to it) energy can properly flow.
    • There are of course some forms of yoga that have been entirely Westernized, and are basically aerobics now. Finding a good yoga studio and teacher as well as style is also a personal thing. I tend to like basic Hatha for beginners, and then Yin or Iyengar for those who are really looking for long-standing changes in their bodies and minds.
  • Sensory Deprivation (Float) Tanks: I love float tanks. I will say if you are claustrophobic that this is not an appropriate option for you, as you are enclosed, naked, in a small tank for 60 or 90 minutes. Float tanks have options for light and sound. I suggest simply being in darkness (no light or sound) if you are comfortable doing so. Float tanks take you out of gravity- your body floats. Your body can not only take in likely desperately needed silence and lack of sensory input, but having the opportunity to do so allows for you to process your own stuff and make leaps forward on your spiritual path. After each float tank I notice that I release heavy energies, emotions (both my own as well as ones that I have accumulated from others), thoughts, and so forth. I used to do a float tank about every other week, but now I do it once a month, and it truly is a life-saver for me. People do report journeys and visions and all that sort of stuff… and I certainly have experienced them… but for me, the ability to release tons of energy and be in a place with little to no sensory input is incredibly necessary and what I utilize the tanks for.
    • Spiritual Bathing: Anyone who knows me knows that I love spiritual bathing. Learning how to do so properly, such as through my Clearing course, is one of those tools that can be learned that can be of great benefit to any sensitive/psychic. Proper energetic hygiene, and learning how to do it, is a vital and neglected skill (and can be learned in this course)
  • CranioSacral Therapy: I am a huge proponent of CranioSacral therapy for sensitives. The reason for this is that it is a light-touch modality that works with the spectrum of mind-body-spirit. It is non-forceful and client (you) directed. If you find an “Upledger” variety therapist (someone who has studied with that school) they may also be able to help you talk to your body (SomatoEmotional Release) in order to release emotions and energies through the body. If the person is “Biodynamic” oriented (the other major school) it relies more on a “witness” state, and can tap into deep spiritual energies that flow through the body.
    • The difficulty with CranioSacral therapy, or any form of bodywork, is finding someone who you mesh with personality-wise who also has the appropriate training and spiritual cultivation. There is an unfortunate tendency (like what has happened with Acupuncture) to have really reductionist people who do not believe in “spirit” or “energy” who practice, or people who simply aren’t trained (have taken a weekend course or two) who are offering the service. I always suggest looking for someone who is certified, who has 5-10 years of experience (with CranioSacral therapy), and who feels comfortable working with highly sensitive individuals (you can assess their energy or simply outright ask them if they feel comfortable working with highly sensitive individuals and see what their answer is)
  • Zero Balancing: Zero Balancing is another form of bodywork that is extremely helpful for sensitives. It works with deep energies in the body (currents that move through bone), and can not only help energy flow through the body (similar to yoga and so forth) and release tensions deep in the body, but can allow for the sensitive to feel grounded and embodied. Work can be done, for example, on all of the tiny bones in the feet (which tend to be quite rigid energetically) to allow for grounding as well as proper energetic cycling between your physical body/feet and the Earth. Since it does work on a “bone” level, it can also release energies such as ancestral/family energies
  • Bodywork in general: No doubt people will say to me “I don’t have a CranioSacral therapist in my area” or you may not have one that is skilled or that you resonate with. It happens. There are a lot of different forms of bodywork that can help. The key is really finding someone that is really skilled and experienced at what they do… so much so that it is a calling for them. They study it on weekends, have books by their nightstand, and so forth. There are so many different forms of bodywork and massage out there, and the key here is finding someone who is passionate, experienced, highly skilled, and “spiritual”. Meaning that they consider bodywork to be a form of art, a spiritual practice (rather than a manual release of built up whatever in the body). You can typically tell this by their bio, or by their energy (really “spiritual” sorts have a lot of peace and stillness to them that happens after proper cultivation/discipline).
    • We lack proper non-sexual touch in our culture. Being touched can allow for us to not feel alone or isolated. It can allow for us to share our grief, our pain, with others. It can allow for us to feel seen. We all get stuck in our patterns, our thoughts, our varying pains. Working with a bodyworker, or visiting one when we feel “stuck” can allow for us to more readily get through whatever we are experiencing. Shared pain is lessened pain, and some patterns and pains really need to be witnessed by someone else to be properly released.
  • Nature: Another expected one, but someone who is sensitive really needs the regular release that walks in the woods, or up a mountain, can provide. I think that we all need this, sensitive or not, but connecting to the beauty of the world, and allowing for release through communing with nature, is vital to the sensitive.
  • Artistic expression: I get a lot of questions about things like anger, and fear, and how to express them properly. Emotions and the sort of “darkness” that most of us shy away from are linked to our creative energies, and are best addressed through artistic expression. Painting, dancing, writing, speaking, singing, anything that allows for you to sit with your emotion (for example, rage) or that part of you that is coming through that you keep on pushing down (the inner teenager, the “dark” parts of you) and give it an appropriate outlet.

There are a lot more “skills” that can be learned by the psychic and sensitive. I also obviously suggest spiritual work for sensitives with a competent spiritual healer. I will also say that the release of trauma is critical for the sensitive to understand who they are and what their sensitivities are clearly (without a bunch of beliefs and understandings created out of illusion or trauma). Simply put, a lot of sensitives think that their difficulties in this world are a result of them being sensitive, when really it is a result of trauma. Trauma that could be healed. I do realize that people don’t like to consider this, as using words like “empath” or “sensitive” in our culture means that we can pin a lot of illusions on them… but healing of trauma (either related to sensitivities or not) is really what is necessary for all sensitives to be able to accept their sensitivities as well as manage them properly.

There also really is proper training that is needed for the “non-aspirational” sensitive or psychic to be able to understand and manage their abilities, but these practices (even if you just choose a few) will allow for there to be more peace, better managing of energy, and the release of what doesn’t serve you. Being “sensitive” can be a beautiful thing in this world, but there is a lack of proper understanding and nurturing for the sensitive to really learn how to thrive in our culture. Learn how to nurture yourself, and develop skills, so sensitivities can be a thing of beauty instead of a constant drain on your resources and energy– it is well worth it to do so.

Seeing Death- or, the Psychic Ability to See or Sense Death


When I was a kid I was obsessed with fairy tales and mythology. My public library was a wonderful resource of Greek mythology in particular, and I spent countless hours reading and identifying with the themes contained within.

In a lesser known fairy tale (I believe it is German), Death becomes Godfather to a small boy. His father had many children and wanted his child to have Death as a Godfather because he was fair… and could help his son to become a famous physician. As is the case in most fairy tales, the child grows up and eventually deceives Death several times, resulting in him being taken to the Underworld and being shown the candles of each person alive. How much was left on that candle was how long the person had left to live, and Death ends up snuffing out the candle of his godchild to teach him a lesson.

For years after reading that fairy tale I looked at people and could see or sense that candle. How much light that person had, what sort of spark they had… When I got older, I could actually see the fire, the flame.

Although I realize this sounds a bit odd, what I was realizing at that early age was basically how much energy or life force the person had within them. The difficulty with this is that there was no way to sort of test my understandings or what I was seeing. It is also true that with modern medicine that someone can have their life prolonged far beyond their “candle” being near its end. When I worked in hospice I saw this quite often. There also was that inevitable “spark” near the end when the candle is nearing the end of the wick.

I also saw when I worked with depressed patients that it would appear that their candle was near its end, although it was not– it was more like there were clouds and smoke and candle wax covering the flame so that it couldn’t burn quite right.

When I started doing psychopomp and Spirit Release work more heavily, I found that I was having trouble adjusting to the work. Not because of the nature of the work, really… but because when I completely immersed myself in the dead and the spirit realms that I had trouble adjusting to the living. I have a tendency to become really immersed in what I am doing and what I am learning for a period of time, which for working with spirits can be quite unhealthy. It took me quite a while to find balance with the work, and to learn how to have both a “regular” life as well as a “spiritual” life (yes, they are the same, but I need to go out to movies and go to the grocery store and if you are immersed in death-type energies that can be difficult).

But one of the oddest things about this time period is that I began to see death masks in people. This only happened to me in flashes, and I know that some people have this ability consistently (and mine flickers) but I began to occasionally see the death masks in people, as well as the possibility of them passing. This would be like a quick flash when I would look at the face of someone. The “death mask” is essentially what a person will look like when they pass– how their face would look, basically, in a state of death.

I do realize that this sounds morbid to probably quite a few of you reading, but it just puzzled me when it happened. A Spiritual Teacher I was working with told me about death masks, which helped with the confusion, but it did not answer the “how” or “why” it happened. Especially because this was not (and is not) a dominant ability of mine. This ability has since waned since I no longer work in hospice and have a bit more balance in my life (I am thankful for this, actually), but I have now worked with a few people who see this on a more consistent basis than I do or have.

Even more commonly people can see or sense death.

This can be the archetypal “Death” figure, Grim Reapers, and other beings/spirits/animals (such as vultures and crows) associated with Death. Because we live culturally in such a fear of death having a spirit guide that has to do with death tends to be rejected by people (even though we are in dire need of people who can work in realms such as this) and it is extraordinarily rare with such a focus on “lightwork” that people want to consider anything such as working spiritually with death.

On the other hand, there are people that tend to be a bit obsessed spiritually with death. Not because it really calls them but because it is “edgy” or different. There will always be people who want to shock– we actually need them in our culture.

There are also “lightworkers” who talk about death and death practices but make up all sorts of puritanical and odd rules about it which is not really that helpful to anyone. The subject of death, or our own personal death, still creates a lot of fear of the unknown in people, so a fair amount of the new-age movement is either focused on creating a lot of illusion about death and how wonderful it is because the person writing about it knows everything about what will happen when we die (my cardinal one rule for spotting a fake teacher is basically them saying they know everything about a specific spiritual subject… no matter how much we have explored we only know so much, and will realize that if we truly are exploring spiritual realms rather than trying to make ourselves feel better)… or they will come up with practices that make us “immortal”. Sometimes the same teacher does both, which I always find interesting. They state that we are not supposed to fear death, and move into it consciously, and then in the next breath will talk about how we can become immortal.

But anyway, there are others out there that can see and sense death. Either as a sort of sudden realization when looking at random people, in dreams, or seeing images like a filmstrip of the passing of others… either specific individuals or dreams or realizations about natural disasters, terrorist attacks, and so forth.

This can naturally be quite disconcerting for people, because it tends to happen randomly. This ability seemingly is not something that can be “trained” like most abilities, and there can be a few reasons why people have it.

  • Like myself, they can be naturally highly sensitive and be immersed in spiritual practices that allow this ability to arise
  • It can be a natural result of being sensitive/psychic and having death as a trigger– basically someone in your family has died, or you have come into contact with death fairly regularly and begin to see this. I talked about this with a hospice nurse once who was not terribly psychic but she sometimes saw death masks in people
  • It can be a call towards “dark” work– meaning doing psychopomp work, healing work- such as hospice or working with death in some way, work with nature, work with spirits
  • It can be a one-time occurrence associated with being in a sort of liminal space when a relative/family member passes or is going to pass
  • It can also be a one-time occurrence if you are in a sort of weird state where you are processing a lot of shadow-type work

So for this ability generally I am not talking about one-time occurrences. Sometimes I get emails from people stating that they knew that their (insert family member/friend/pet here) was going to die and when once, and they are wondering what it means. If you study the energetics of death and dying anyone who is sensitive will sense about two weeks before someone is going to pass that their time may be close. Other people who are more sensitive might even have an understanding of when and where. This is true especially for someone that is close to you, and is often a random one (or possibly two) time occurrence for people.

What I am talking about here really is an aspect of clairvoyance that is specifically focused on seeing death… with an aspect of precognition thrown in (which tends to be a clairvoyant faculty).

It is the looking at people in a supermarket and being able to sense that they will be in a motorcycle accident soon. It is the seeing of the “death mask” of people randomly on the subway. It is looking at that candle in someone and realizing that it is a bright flame or that it is near the end of its cycle.

It is an ability that tends to come and go and can be troubling and difficult for the experiencer. It can be a sense of knowing (claircognition) but is, when it comes through strongly, a faculty of precognitive clairvoyant faculties.

There can be training and skills that can be developed for those of you that experience it, in some regards. Even though it can be quite random there is at least understanding to be had.

But more than that there is peace that can be experienced through this ability. Death is really one of the (if not the) greatest fears that we have individually and culturally. It holds us back in a lot of ways. People who experience this can transcend this fear of death. Most people who have this ability tend to freak out (and rightfully so, even if it just has happened once) and close down this capacity, but it really can be understood and is an opportunity for the individual to release one of the biggest fears that most of us have.

PLEASE NOTE: If you are interested in working with psychic abilities, I suggest my book, Managing Psychic Abilities. I do not answer emails unless they are about my books or programs.

Spiritual Advice Column: Psychic Abilities, Fakeness, and Anger

Hi Mary-

Thank you for your book first of all! I also enjoy all of the information I have read so far on your blog. I hope you can help me with this. I have always been psychic I guess. I remember being little and talking to imaginary friends and seeing spirits when I was a kid. I think I stopped my abilities because my parents got angry with me because I had them. They would get angry and tell me that I was just making things up so somehow I stopped things?

Anyway, I started getting them back when I was a teenager. So here is my question. I know in a blog you read about how many fakes there are out there. I get really, really angry about this. I get really angry when someone tells me they are psychic and I know they are not, and I get upset at all those reality shows of psychics. I have had a difficult life because I felt like I had to keep my abilities secret. I feel like living in a world where I am able to see so much is hard, and everybody talks about psychic abilities like they are great. I am doing better with this now, but when I look at other people claiming to be psychic and I can tell that they are not I just can’t help really disliking them.

How do I get over this? That is my simple question. I don’t want to feel the anger I feel but some of these people and the whole world seems so fake about this. I get tired of seeing books and people talk about how great it is to be a psychic. They are all so fake!

– Angry Psychic

Hi Angry Psychic:

So this is a common problem for people, and a common problem with society at large, so thank you for bringing it up.

First, let us talk about society… Yes, you are right. Most of the people claiming to be psychic are not. Most of the people who are professional psychics are not psychic. They just have good P.R., they are gregarious, they can cold read people (look for psychological cues), they can google, etc.

But here is the thing. Most people when they are looking for a psychic don’t actually want a psychic. They want a Medium who tells them that their lost loved one is safe and loves them, they want someone to tell them that everything is going to be okay, they want someone to tell them that they will meet the love of their life, that their boyfriend (or girlfriend or husband/wife/partner) is not cheating on them, that they will become wealthy, and that they will get that new job and become a millionaire.

So there has become a whole market of illusory psychics who tell people this sort of stuff… and since it is what people want to hear it works out. It is “fake”, but both sides get what they need, basically. There is a lot of illusion in this world, however.. not just in the realm of psychics… and we all sometimes need to hear that everything is okay.

I used to have a lot of difficulty with the fact that all of these “psychics” were basically feeding off of the despair of others (especially in the cases of mediumship, but also in general), and how anyone with any amount of psychic ability can tell how they have no (or very little) actual sensitivity or psychic abilities, but at some point I realized that most people generally find what they are looking for. 

If people want illusion, especially comforting illusion, they will find the illusory psychics. If they want someone to actually tell them how things look, they will find a spiritual reader or worker that actually has psychic abilities. It is just how things go. We find the truth we are prepared for. And if we want to be comfortable, for someone to tell us that our dead whomever forgives us, we will find someone who will tell us just that.

It is funny– there used to be a woman in many of my bodywork classes who would come in each workshop and loudly proclaim with a huge smile on her face that she was clairvoyant. Looking at her you realized that she was probably the furtherest thing from clairvoyant in the room (there were probably five-ten students and teachers all of whom were more sensitive/psychic than she was). At the time this made me extremely dislike her. It probably didn’t help that she quoted the same b.s. that all of those people do. People who are actually sensitive tend to have their own direct experiences and revelations of a spiritual nature and generally don’t need to quote Eckhart Tolle or whomever I have found– they can just speak from their truth and not the recycled sayings of others from the latest Oprah show.

There are a lot of people like this out there. It is the grass is always greener syndrome. People who are actually sensitive tend to have a lot of difficulty with their abilities, especially if they are pretty strong, and especially when they manifest in childhood and teenager years like they do with a lot of people (a time known for its already treacherous terrain of hormones and initiations all of a physical and mental variety… and where we are never celebrated for being different… because being different- thinking or seeing or sensing differently- at those ages means that you need special attention… or these days medication).

People who wouldn’t know something spiritual if it hit them over the head with a spirit hammer are always the ones claiming to be psychic or sensitive. This is why 99 percent of the books out there are for opening your third eye, or the same recycled information about chakras again and again. Because people really don’t have their own spiritual experiences– they don’t have the sensitivity level to. So they just recycle the same sayings and knowledge, even if it is false knowledge, again and again like a bad game of telephone.

The other thing is that through their direct experience some of these “psychics” are actually psychic. I often give the analogy of five people walking into a room. Two people notice five things (stimuli, objects, etc), one person notices ten things, one person notices twenty five, and the last notices 2,500. It is likely that the person who notices ten things is the type of person to loudly proclaim their psychic abilities. This is because they notice a bit more than other people, but it hasn’t had a large impact on their life to create trauma.

Because that is what this is all about– trauma. It is hard to be that person that notices 2,500 things when most people notice five. It really is. But the anger is coming from not the fakes, not the illusions, but from your own experiences in this world.

This world is an illusion. People create illusions, and most people only understand their own direct experience. So the “aspirational psychic”– the one who is psychic because they are noticing 15 things doesn’t know about your experience of noticing twenty five or 2,500. They just don’t. They know about their own direct experience of wanting to be psychic, thinking they are because of a book or school or because they have “decalcified their pineal gland” or whatever… they think they are because they are perhaps opening a bit more, or are a bit more psychic than they used to be. But all of this doesn’t really have anything to do with you.

People believe what they need to be true about themselves. If they need to be psychic, if they want to be psychic, if they model their lives after Long Island Medium (or whatever is popular these days in this sort of thing), that is their business.

For you I would suggest working through the trauma that has been created due to your abilities. The more you can release the hurt, the anger, the fear… the more that you can learn how to properly work with your psychic abilities so they are not painful or destructive to you emotionally, physically, energetically, spiritually… the more you can start to let go of this pattern.

There will always be people out there in the spiritual “field” who are claiming to be much more than they are. They have had one or two spiritual experiences so they know the depths of the Universe, have changed their name, and are holding satsangs… they create their own memes… they claim to be psychic.

It is not our job to control other people. They will do and be what they will do and be. And it is out of control to police people who are presenting themselves as something they are not. Truth is, most of us are. Most of us wear a mask to cover up our insecurities, our fear, our unprocessed emotions and needs for control. Most people do this throughout their lives, and do not have the presence of mind or need (or want) to change.. to learn who they truly are and become fully who they are meant to be.

As someone who can see behind the masks like you do, you have this unique ability. So do yourself a favor and let go of the trauma and whatever else is holding you back. You will realize that people are constructing illusions like they always do and just go to a state of noticing when you do notice the illusions (rather than reaction). The fact that you are reacting to this rather than the one million (yes, I made that up) other illusions out there means that there is trauma there for you to work on personally.

For now, when you come across one of these people individually, you can tell yourself that you are releasing any need of control of them. Just repeat it internally until you feel things shift.

When you come across it collectively, allow yourself to realize that so much of the “comfortable illusion” wouldn’t be out there if people didn’t want it. There are other books and resources for you (like me, hopefully!) and if you can let go, if you can realize that most people want to be comfortable, even (and especially) when it comes to spiritual matters… and you are simply looking for something different… you will find what you are looking for… and you can heal.

I hope this helps, and you are (as well as anyone else who is reading this) welcome to contact me for a session. I work with a lot of people who need help releasing this type of anger, fear, and the trauma that comes from having psychic abilities. You can read more about individual sessions for psychics and sensitives here… and read about my ethical pledge here (I do not work with everyone… I only work with people I feel like I can be of service to and are ready for the type of work that I do).

The Spiritual Advice Column: I occasionally answer questions from people on psychic abilities, spiritual awakenings, shamanism/spiritual work, and other spiritual subjects. You are welcome to contact me with your question (please put Spiritual Advice column in the email/note), and I will write about it if I think that other people could benefit from it, and that it is something that I have knowledge about. My advice is obviously not from an allopathic standpoint, and all questions may be edited for clarity and focus.

Discernment of Spiritual Energies: Tools for Psychics and Sensitives

One of the biggest teaching segments that I do for people who are in my email programs is how to discern energies. This is an important topic that is rarely covered by others.

The truth is that the spiritual is all around us. Energies, spirits, beings, energetic fields, emotions, thoughtforms… and much more

Most of us can only see very little of what is around us. We call what most people see “reality” in that a large percentage of us will agree about such things. Yes, there is a chair in the corner of the room. Yes, that movie starred Hugh Jackman. We think of these things as concrete, and quite frankly we think of these things as being the only things there.

People get in huge disagreements about this. It is the whole debate between “science” and holistic medicines, where science seeks to reduce things down to concrete reality and what we currently know to be true through the mainstream current thought patterns and observable phenomena by people interested only in the concrete… and others who acknowledge that there are energies and spirits and all sorts of things we cannot observe or understand.

Interestingly, such fields as Acupuncture, as they become more popular, are finding themselves with a lot of “concrete” and linear types of thinkers who want to re-create Acupuncture to be about neuromuscular junctions and things that are acceptable by modern, “concrete” thinkers. While this does help programs such as Acupuncture programs in hospitals for cancer children (which I love and totally support) it has rendered the medicine of Acupuncture to be more and more ineffective, with practitioners that cannot cultivate qi (which is the heart of the medicine and how it works) for the life of them.

But the ability to see or sense the things around us is a bit of a bell curve. Before the bell curve goes for its swoop upward are the people who only will notice things that are physical, and will often refuse to sense or see anything else. These people will negate emotions, feeling states, or anything non-physical or accepted by pretty much everyone around them.

We then have the entirety of the curve. As the curve goes up to its apex is where most people generally are. Some are able to sense emotions, feelings, and so forth. Some of these people are mildly sensitive to spiritual stimuli– meaning that when the previous categories may notice five things in a room, they may notice five things in that room, an emotion, and a sense that the house they are in is dark, or something bad might have happened there. As the curve goes downward we get people that are more and more sensitive… who are more and more able to receive, understand, sense, and see spiritual stimuli. As the curve goes flat again we get the highly sensitive person, who is typically so inundated with stimuli coming from all sources– physical, emotional, energetic, spiritual– that it is difficult for them to function. 

I typically work with people on the other side of that bell curve– who are having difficulty with how much they sense, see, or feel that is not considered “concrete” reality.

But because so many people, and the vast majority of the population is on that other side of the bell curve, proper discernment of energy and spirits is never taught.

Because so much of the “spiritual” community is intended for the aspirational type, the ones who want to become more sensitive, and generally wouldn’t know something spiritual or energetic if it was doing the hokey-pokey in front of them in a bar, the general teaching is that spiritual work is safe (I won’t go on another rant, but you can read this blog if you want it) and that anything spiritual that you are able to see, sense, taste, hear (you get my point) is intended for you and is there for you. 

This is simply not true. The spiritual is all around us– our world has many, many energies, beings, spirits, emotions, thoughts, and so forth that interweave and live side by side with our world. You just don’t notice them. 

So realizing that as a sensitive (I tend to use this word more than psychic, because like the word Shaman it tends to bring negative connotations in outer culture and the aspirational community) that you are simply noticing more that is right in front of you is an important realization. 

The spiritual is not somewhere else. It is not separate. It is right here. It is in front of you, doing the hokey-pokey.

As a sensitive, if you are able to reconcile the above realization you will come to understand that, much like what we consider “concrete reality” we may not want to trust everything that we see or sense. Simply because something comes up to us and says that they are our guide doesn’t make it so, for example. I would liken this to someone coming up to you in a bar and telling you that they are an investment banker who has a BMW. Just because they say it doesn’t make it true.

We are under the false illusion that the spiritual is safe, that it is here to help us, that if we just think positively or imagine white light or sage our homes that we are safe doing whatever and interacting with whatever in the spiritual realms. But for those of us who are sensitive, this simply isn’t true.

I do not intend to strike a chord of fear. It really isn’t my intent. My purpose is to get you to truly think about what you are interacting with if you are sensitive. It may be the most loving guide that is full of wisdom and intended just for you to help you along your spiritual path. It may also be a former human who you probably shouldn’t be taking advice from. You wouldn’t let a stranger into your home, and you wouldn’t believe a guy or girl who comes up to you at a coffee shop telling you that they can make you famous. The same considerations apply to the spirit world. 

It is typical for the highly sensitive (that person on the end or on the flat part of the end of that bell curve) are so inundated with spiritual stimuli, and are in such a cycle of overwhelm, that they cannot discern anything at all. Having a vision to anyone who does not have them sounds interesting. Having thirty thousand visions at the same time is not. Sensing more than other people do sounds wonderful. But when the “normal” person can sense or see twenty things in a room and you sense 20,000 it goes from simply being sensitive to an emergency situation. When someone is highly mediumistic, for example, and closes their eyes to see many people waving their hands at them for help it is not interesting. It interferes with your life and ability to function.

At some point on this spectrum things get physical. Headaches, digestive issues, sleep issues, bad dreams, nosebleeds, and constant feelings of being on edge or being watched. Constant and debilitating fatigue, autoimmune issues, migraines, and pain are the most common issues that highly sensitive people face. But there are also the feelings of intense emotions (that may or may not be yours) as well as the fluctuating nature of have the “highs” of large influxes of energy and then the “lows” of crashes after spiritual experiences. All of this I will get into in another blog soon.

But for the highly sensitive person (or even the moderately sensitive person) we really are only able physiologically to process so much energy at a time. And most of us are not “clear” or even close to it so the energy gets stuck in our bodies. Most people who are sensitive (either moderately or highly) have learned how to subconsciously shield, or have had horrible advice about creating shields, thoughtforms, or “sealing the aura” from authors and teachers. Unfortunately this is created out of your own energy, typically, adding to the fatigue. This also creates a mechanism where more energy gets stuck within you, creating more physical and emotional problems. We are intended to have proper flow in and out of our bodies of energy. Adding more obstructions, shields, or “seals” is not the solution to this. It just creates more issues.

So what is the solution? 

1. Discernment of energies. When we know enough about what we are sensing we can start to create a sort of file cabinet psychically. We can begin to categorize and release energy and stimuli at the level in needs to be, and in the way it needs to release.

This work is typically not taught because, quite frankly, most of us are not highly sensitive. But for even moderately sensitive people discernment of energies is needed. You need to know if the guy at the bar who is telling you about his stock portfolio and how he rescues kittens from sewers on the weekends actually does those things. You also need to know if the “guy” at the bar is actually a guy– or is a former human, being, energy, or something else entirely.

Many sensitive people need to learn what is theirs, and what is not in terms of energetics and emotions. Learning who you are and taking control of your physical body will significantly decrease physical, emotional, and even spiritual issues.

These are all skills that can be taught.

What else is needed? Proper safety and precautions for interacting with the spiritual world. A spiritual bouncer, or energy that can create a layer of protection for you. Real, trustworthy guides and energies that can assist you that have been thoroughly vetted and you know how to work with properly.

Any sensitive needs to properly know how to clear their home and how to protect their home and themselves. Sensitives have a tendency to attract all sorts of energies to them. Some of these energies wish to attach themselves to our energy field or physical bodies for assistance of some sort, or more typically, for our energy. A proper, strong routine of clearing, banishing, and protection is needed for any highly sensitive person. Most of the materials that are out there commonly (sage, for example) are actually pretty weak. There are much stronger tools out there, and for someone who is highly or moderately sensitive, a spiritual bathing routine can be literally life-changing and life-saving.

Beyond that, you need to be educated about the different types of energies and how to work with them. So discernment, but also learning tools for how to understand, work with, or clear different types of energies. There are a lot of different types of energies, beings, and spirits out there. They all can be properly understood and worked with. Some people do not want to work with them, but even these people need to understand what surrounds them so they can react appropriately and effectively.

We are surrounded by stimuli of all types. Most of us only notice a very small fraction of what is around us. Some of us notice a slightly larger fraction. And for those people, it can be overwhelming. For those people, it can lead to very real physical, emotional, and spiritual issues that nobody really talks about or knows how to help with. We think of the spiritual realms as being separate, and if anything comes our way it is intended for us. It is not. Most of what the highly sensitive person notices is just energy, spirits, and other things that are simply present in the environment. Proper discernment and the learning of proper tools can help the sensitive person who simply notices more of the world than others to be functional, happy, healthy, to understand what is going on, and to be safe and in control of their own body. If you are interested in learning these tools, you can contact me. I would be happy to look at your situation to see if I can be of assistance. You can read more about my ethics here.

Spiritual Advice: Psychic Ability to Predict Death


I found your site because I wanted to know more about how I can sense death in people. Sometimes I look at people in the market and I see some of them that are going to die. Sometimes I will even sense how it will happen like a guy I saw I knew he was going to get in a car crash.

Another time I saw a woman who was pregnant and I knew that she was going to miscarry the child. It is awful to realize these things. Most of the time they are about people that I don’t know and just see around town, but sometimes I realize that a friend is going to get sick, or one time I realized my cousin was going to die. I would think it was just my imagination, but my cousin did actually die and the feelings I get when I realize these things are really intense. For example I will get a headache or feel dread or even a few times would see how the person would die. But most of the time I just feel kind of sick and it is like a big realization that I just can’t shake.

Can you tell me what this all means? What do I do about this? I can’t imagine I go up to people and tell them that they are going to die. That would just be weird. How do I not get upset about this too? I don’t think I want to block things, but they do make me not feel well. If you could reply it would be really, really helpful.

– Seer of Death

Hi Seer-

So what this ability is called is precognition. It is typically under the umbrella of claircognition. Claircognition means “clear knowing”. It is our gut instinct, that sort of intuition that mothers get when their children are in trouble. It is our sense of knowing something without knowing why. Claircognition is actually the most common psychic ability, but is often dismissed because we live in a culture that dismisses that quiet voice inside, that sense of knowing that emerges. Most of us are quite dismissive of any sort of information that pops up without us having a context for it, a narrative, a story, or some sort of linear logic from our brains/ego telling us that the information is valid and okay.

This sense of knowing, this claircognition, can be a small sense of knowing that we should turn right instead of left down a street, only to find out that there was a traffic accident that would have made us late to our appointment if we had turned left. It can also be a huge sense of knowing, accompanied by dread and chills and becoming physically ill with realizing that there are going to be layoffs at our company, that something bad is going to happen to us (and we don’t know what, but we just have this realization), or that a pet, family member, or complete stranger is going to die.

Just so this doesn’t seem all gloomy (before I go on to the death part), claircognition is an incredibly useful ability to have. We can know if our children are okay, how that test is going to go, what job we should take, if that boy/girl/man/woman is right for us, and get a general sense of environment. For example, if we listen to our claircognition we may pick up that the bar we are at, the subway car we are in, or the street we are walking down is not safe. We may not know why, but this sense of knowing causes us to walk down another street, to leave the bar, or to move on the subway. Most of us do this behavior unconsciously– our claircognitive skills are not conscious so we want to leave the bar, or the train, or walk quicker down the street (or change streets) without knowing why. 

But some of us become conscious of our claircognition and utilize it to our advantage. We begin to listen to our gut instinct, to acknowledge it, and to even express gratitude for it giving us information. Again, most of us do not listen to what our instincts are telling us… we have become disconnected from them because we are either looking for something crassly linear and double-blind study logical (typically meaning told to us by others or given to us by others) or we are looking for huge explosions of psychic abilities, such as the media portrays clairvoyance (clear seeing). By acknowledging this ability and listening to it we can become better people more in line with who we truly are.

It is important to understand that society at large is not in a sensing or feeling state, so others (even those interested in spiritual matters) are likely to disregard your experiences that come from this feeling or sensing state. This comes from an ego state of always wanting that hugely splashy thing or “valid” linear scientific double-blind study type proof. If we listen to others who are not capable or comfortable with being in a state of sensing or feeling, we often disregard our own experiences and understandings. It is important not to do so in an attempt to seek outer acceptance of abilities such as this.

To acknowledge and grow your claircognition is simple: you acknowledge what is coming up (I should move subway cars), sit with it for a moment to feel if it is valid or not (by asking your gut, not your head)… when you hear a “yes” you act on that action by moving subway cars (for example). Then say “thank you” to that information, to your gut instinct for telling you this information. If it is a huge move, such as getting a divorce or moving to another country, you can still acknowledge what is coming up but sit with it for a while longer before making a move or drastic life change. Even acknowledging that this information is coming up and saying a simple “thank you” to it without changing anything in your physical reality will allow for you to gradually understand how powerful this ability actually is.

Now, on to precognition. Precognition, as I mentioned, is somewhat of a child of claircognition, typically. This means that you will realize that something will happen in the future without knowing why. This can be all sorts of information, from realizing you will get that job you just interviewed for to realizing you are going to move in the next six months to realizing that two weeks from now you are going to be sick. Many sensitives, for example, with this ability, schedule their work around the fact that they realize when they will be at full power, or have the ability to work a lot, and when they need a break or even bed rest.

A type of precognition is the ability to see or sense death. This can be sort of a vague sense of knowing to full clairvoyant (seeing) abilities of seeing a stranger in the grocery store die in a fiery crash in the near future. This can be difficult information to process, and the sensitive who sees it may experience headaches, nausea, stomach issues, or emotional imbalances from seeing so much death around them. It also can understandably be a bit of a perpetual existential crisis to have this ability, to want to get rid of it, to not know what to do about it, or to have this ability call up our own fears around death. It is also a huge difficulty for some people who are especially sensitive with this ability to have to process the energy and the death of the person through their physical body.

I should note that it is most common to see death at or around two weeks before the physical death. Our spiritual bodies are preparing (or trying to prepare) for what is going to occur in the near future, and in most cases (not all, some sudden deaths are not like this) sensitives are sensing the fact that the energy bodies are lifting off of the body towards the top of the head (typically) near death, or that there is a grey or dark cast/hue around the person who is going to die suddenly.

So the question is always what to do about this ability. It is an understandable question, and I have personally grappled with seeing a lot of things that I cannot or should not do anything about. In our modern culture (media portrayals such as Ghost Whisperer and Long Island Medium) we see “mediums” (yes, I put that in quotes for a reason) walking up to random strangers and telling them that their dead grandmother is with them. I have personally had people walk up to me and try to read me. It deeply bothers me when this happens. First off, because it is always the person that has the least amount of sensitivities (as in, not very psychic at all or perhaps went to a psychic school and got a certificate which means they are, of course, now psychic) who tell me things that are often not correct, are from conversation they overheard, or are so basic that they are more cold reading (a sort of psychological ability to read body language, faces, or just utilizing really basic generalized info that could apply to anyone) in order to appear special.

It is ethically wrong to tell someone that they are going to die, or to tell them any sort of psychic information that you are picking up about them. The only way that it is okay is if they are paying you, or coming to you for guidance, and you deeply question if they really want to know or can hear (as in process) the information you are picking up about them. 

The other thing to know about the ability to see death is that it is not 100 percent. Meaning you could be wrong, meaning that you could be reading someone else in the store instead (their death) and cross a few wires and have it be about another person by mistake, you could be having an off day or so overwhelmed by stuff going on in your own life or that there is so much death in the air (it happens) that you can sense it with everyone. That person you are picking up information about could also turn left instead of right by some miracle and not get in that car crash you sense them in. It happens.

So my point is here that you do not do anything about the information. You do not tell them. Maybe you choose not to get in a car with them (for example) but telling them is ethically wrong for a variety of reasons.

So the question here is what do you do about this ability… or “Why do I have it?” This is something of a difficult question, and depends on the individual. You may have it simply because you do… you are sensitive and you pick up on more information than people around you. Death is actually fairly easy to pick up on as long as you don’t have blinders on (many people refuse to process any information about death or “darkness” because it is not “light” and they have a deep fear about their own inevitable death). Death is part of our world, and picking up when someone has two weeks left (or so, not an exact science) or the sort of cast or shadow that happens when someone is likely to die suddenly is not super far left-field… meaning that it is fairly easy to see.

Some of us have had experiences with death that make us more prone to see it in the people around us. We are comfortable with death, or we have had some sort of trauma involving death that allows for us (as people who are already likely sensitive) to be more in tune with that energy. Some of us have had near death experiences that have allowed for us to see death in those around us.

Some of us are intended to be spiritual workers and actually do something with this information. Some spiritual workers can see the “death mask” on everyone. Our “death mask” is what we will look like in death, and often contains information about how long we have left, what we will die of/from, and so forth. Other spiritual workers can see the inner light of a person (like a candle) and see how brightly it shines. If it shines more brightly, that means the person has more life left in them. The spiritual workers who can see this are often (not always) good at psychopomp– which is helping people spiritually cross over out of their physical body (move out of their physical body after death) as well as from their spirit form into the proverbial light.

Some of us are intended to be nurses, hospice workers, or others who work with death and the dying process.

Some of us are intended to utilize our relationship with death to create fantastic pieces of art and beauty in this world.

But most of us are not intended to do anything with this information simply because we see it. You are just more sensitive, for whatever reason, and your sensitivities are allowing you to notice death.

What is needed though is to let go of the intense emotions, fear, and physical issues (as well as existential crises) that come with this ability. You do this by reconciling your personal fears around death, any trauma you may have experienced with death, and most importantly you go into a state of noticing rather than reaction to receiving any sort of psychic input. By going to a state of noticing, rather than taking the energy on (which makes you physically and emotionally ill) or processing it (this does not! need to happen), you can become much healthier, more sane, and react neutrally to seeing these sorts of things.

Processing World Energies: The World Grid

I am not the type to typically complain, or even comment on the flow of world energies. I understand (and have had many astrologers back me up) that Mercury Retrograde has people feeling off because they attach such importance to it, and fifteen years ago was around the time that most people started blaming all of their computer issues on Mercury Retrograde.

Similarly, I think that many people in spiritual communities ascribe issues that are actually their own to happenings in the world. I am the type of person that if I drop a hammer on my foot I am going to look to my own clumsiness and question my own issues before I look to the world, or the cosmos, or a being or energy influencing me causing that happening. The worst sort of fake psychic in my opinion is the one who says the day after a bombing, terrorist attack, plane crash, or celebrity dying that they knew it was going to happen because they had a dream or premonition about it. It is tacky, and it is typically the lowest level awareness type of “psychic” who does this sort of thing to prove how awakened they are. I have said it before, but if you are something, and you know you are something (be it a psychic or a mechanic or a teacher or a meditator or whatever you can possibly imagine) you no longer need to prove yourself. You just are.

While I can appreciate astrology (even though I am at only a surface level understanding of it for the most part, and am totally fine with that) the focus in spiritual communities on astrologers putting out forecasts telling us to “brace ourselves” or that “huge energies and shifts are coming our way” or whatever they are saying (do you ever notice none of them say that it is going to be a lovely blissful time of peace?) only serves to perpetuate and create a state of fear and hyper-reaction amongst the spiritual set. This serves to magnify an energy that likely is there, but not to the extent that most people are even aware of or need to process. I always love the expression when you hear hoofbeats look for horses not zebras. While not a perfect aphorism for this context, it shows what most people do: they focus on anything seemingly outside of themselves and are in a permanent state of reaction to energies that they very likely are not even feeling to a great extent.

I also know that by going online and participating in spiritual communities like I have over the past decade that people love to ascribe all of their issues to something outside of themselves. It makes things spiritual… and they do not have to take personal responsibility for them. They can just form groups that all feed off of each other energetically and create huge thoughtforms and grids and illusions magnifying the effects of these supposed energies. When we have dealt with our own issues, for the most part, even the flows of the largest energies from the cosmos do not cause us a great deal of pain. They are just a part of divine flow. We move from a state of reaction to one of simply noticing.

Typically to process most world events you just have to be open enough, and aware enough, to process larger energies through you. This means you have taken care of your own traumas, your family traumas, ancestral issues, past lives, and all of those belief systems and illusions… that you have awakened to community and social and state and country type of grids of energy. As we get further out, the energies and the grids get larger. What may be a small stream of energy from our community turns into a tidal wave of energy from the world.

These grids, these energies, flow through all of us. Most of us are not awake enough to notice them. Most of us are so focused on ourselves (or we need to be focused on ourselves) that we cannot even look to what is directly influencing us– our family, ancestry, etc. So the fact that all of us interface with world energies and only some of us are conscious of it means that only some of us are really noticing these grids in actuality. It means that most people have so much stuff of a personal nature to take care of that the illusion that much of their issues are caused by Mercury Retrograde is comforting. And in fact the fear and illusion of Mercury Retrograde that is created by society, on a societal level, on a spiritual community level, is enough to intensify any spiritual happening much past its actual nature.

All that being said, some of us are awake or sensitive enough to interface with the grid of global energies. For some people this can be very difficult and disorienting, especially because it is not talked about and if you have a bunch of “stuff” in front of it (all of the other layers of you, your family, ancestry, belief systems and trauma etc) that feeling a huge grid of energy, a huge wave of energy, only magnifies all of the “lower level” issues rather than being just a huge wave of energy that informs your existence. There is also a lot of understandable fear that happens, as people who can see/hear/feel/smell this type of grid are freaked out because they don’t know what to do, why this is happening, or even what it is. They don’t know how to interact or work with this energy in any sort of healthy or beneficial way.

At a certain point we become fault lines for larger energies. They manifest through us, we process them. We process energies for ourselves, but also for our communities, for the world, and even for the cosmos. But as these energies are flowing through us (if we are sensitive/ awake enough to notice or feel them) they bring up our other stuff we haven’t processed yet. This stuff may be painful. So this large wave of energy is flowing through us… and we will have to process the wave of energy as well as the layers and layers of unprocessed belief systems, illusions, and traumas coming from many sources that are present in more superficial layers of ourselves.

In addition, sometimes things happen in the world, like this week, that cause a massive wave of energy to come through the world grid. It actually doesn’t happen that often. World energies are pretty wide and big. But sometimes this energy rather than being simply a big energy, or even a tidal wave, becomes a massive multi-story typhoon. And this is enough to wipe anyone out, to completely change their outlook on things, and basically to put anyone sensitive to these energies into a state of overwhelm. Even the most integrated, healthy, and balanced awakened person can be caught off guard by certain huge energies, just because they are so large and take a while to process.

So I have no idea what was happening this week. I know it was from the world grid (as opposed to other grids like cosmic, societal, communal, etc which all have different energies and feels to them). It is ending now (or soon) but it was difficult on a lot of sensitive and/or awakened people to integrate, and resulted in a lot of personal change. So although I am not a person who seeks to look outside of myself, who seeks to blame my headache on the cosmos or a bombing that happened half a world away… it is important to know that these energies can be worked with, they can be integrated in 99 percent of cases. But that 1 percent that we can’t is a good time to surrender and simply allow that change to occur. And when we get back to a state of normalcy, a state of functionality, we can begin the process of understanding and working through what occurred. But it is always important to note that we do react to huge energies that are not “us”… but most of the time and in 99 percent of cases if we had cleared our own stuff, or our family, ancestral, past lives… and progressed through and understood the lower grids that we wouldn’t be in a state of reaction. We would just be in a state of noticing.

I realize that this may be the first time you have been introduced to world grids, or the grid system overall. You can read a bit more about them here but in reality it is important to have a physical teacher to help you understand and process things. It is possible to go to a state of participation and noticing of even the most intensive spiritual divine flows. They can be quite beautiful. But if you do not know how to handle them, or what is going on, they can be painful, and difficult, and cause a lot of issues. You can contact me if you are interested in a reading (in which I can tell you what you are reacting to, what your individual sensitivities are, etc) or to schedule a session for sensitives (read more here) so we can talk about how to understand, work with, and consciously participate in the larger energies that comprise the Universe.

On Being an Empath

One of the most commonly talked about and thought about psychic abilities these days is Empathy. But what exactly is an Empath? What does it mean to be Empathic?

In many circles I see this as a source of difficulty– a wide variety of people belaboring the moon cycles, or crowds, or an Earthquake in a far off land as a source of great pain and discomfort for themselves. And while this is true, and can and does certainly happen, it certainly misses out on the positive aspects of being an Empath, and is largely the perspective of the unskilled (meaning lacking the understanding and tools to navigate the ability).

A lot of people I find also announce themselves as an Empath when they do not have much information on it, and will assume that they are one because of a meme or quiz on Facebook or a short article somewhere, or because it is a term that they heard basic information on (and they don’t know anything about other psychic abilities). While this is in no way dangerous, knowing what our dominant psychic ability is (basically how we take in information) is how we both understand and develop the capabilities to work with our sensitivities (the PC word for psychic abilities these days it seems).

We all have a dominant psychic ability– a way that we take in information. Even the most asleep, clouded individual who is in no way psychic (and would likely loudly denounce the term) sometimes takes in information that other people in the room might not notice. This can be through felt sense, visually, hearing, taste, smell, and/or feelings.

Being psychic in a simple sense just means that we take in information that is beyond our culturally accepted notions of what “reality” is. We think of reality as being somewhat concrete. Five people walk into a room and they all agree that a desk is in there. This is concrete reality. Two people may notice two things about the desk, one may notice three, one may notice twelve, and one may notice forty-five. The last two people, in simple terms, are psychic. They notice more than other people do, and are likely noticing things that are outside of what we commonly accept as “reality”.

So what is an Empath then? There are actually different degrees of being an empath. For simplicity I will refer to them as low, medium, and high. Empathy in itself simply means that you take in that information, feelings, and experiences of the people and situations around you like a sponge. Likely most of us (especially if you are reading this) have had an experience of being in a room with someone who is really angry and then feeling angry ourselves– not because we are actually angry but because we actually soaked in that energy.

Empaths are energetic chameleons. There are different psychic abilities that would create the situation that if we were in a room with an angry person our Stomach may hurt (Clairsentient, which most people who consider themselves as Empaths actually typically are, and is something that also happens to most Empaths to a certain degree). But while someone who is faced with a lot of stimuli and gets a headache or stomachache because of it (and this is something that normally happens to the person when they are faced with an overwhelm response), the Empath will get a headache because someone else has that headache, they will get a stomachache when someone else has a stomachache, they will get angry because someone else is angry.

Empaths energetically change themselves, like chameleons, to the dominant energy of the room, a person in that room, the environment, the weather, or even the world. 

In low level Empaths they may just notice not feeling well, they may notice that when they encounter someone angry that they take on that emotion. They will often call themselves sensitive, or will notice that they are sensitive, and will have trouble with crowds, with chaos, with difficult emotions. They will be able to connect deeply to people and will be able to see people for who they truly are (behind all the masks and lies and other stuff people put up to survive). They will be able to tell when people are lying.

In mid level Empathy the person will have all the traits of a low-level Empath but will also use their sponge- like abilities to soak in/change their energetic structure to match the weather, the environment, political upheavals, the room they are in, the internet, their electronics (yes, this is where difficulty with electronics can come in and most mid or high level Empaths cannot wear watches because they just stop them). The mid-level Empath unless they are aware of what is going on is often in a fair amount of pain (physical pain) and doesn’t know why they feel like crap so much of the time, and why their emotions are always all over the place.

In high level Empathy the person will have the traits of low and mid-level Empathy. They also will feel major shifts with the world, the cosmos, the fluctuations in the Earth (volcanoes, for example) from even far away. Most high-level Empaths actually process these events in their bodies like a fault line for the Earth (a topic I can get to in another day). A high level Empath who is unskilled (who doesn’t know what is going on or hasn’t found any tools to deal with it) is often in a great deal of pain and is often not able to be functional in the world. In some high-level Empaths there also is the ability to not only resonate and take on energies like a chameleon there is the permanent shifting of their energetic structure after. This can happen with some skills (like sculpting for example, where the person is around a sculptor, resonates with them, and permanently takes on an ability to sculpt) but happens with psychic abilities as well. For example, I have worked with plenty of high-level Empaths who have found people who can see grids, or can communicate with the dead, who after their encounter with them now have the ability to do so themselves on a permanent basis.

In many cases of mid and high level Empathy it is difficult for the person to have an identity– to know who they really are. This is because they are processing and assimilating so much information that is not them. This means that it is difficult to know what is vs. what is not actually themselves. Mid/high level empaths may feel quite lost or feel that there is so much stimuli around them that they are constantly on overwhelm. These are all skills that can be learned and worked with and even the highest level Empath can discover who they really and truly are.

All of these Empaths (low, mid, or high) require the right skills and understandings to navigate their world. A fair amount of Empaths think that empathy is just torture, and it is an odd torture that they on some level enjoy. They enjoy going into chat rooms and groups about psychic abilities or “shifts” and finding others in their same situation to complain about how the current shift, or astrological phenomena, or person in the bar has caused them pain and finding other Empaths to be in a pain field with. People are where they are, and if they wish to have that pain, or the label of Empath means pain and difficulty to them, they can stay with it.

But there is so much more, and with the right tools and understandings Empaths can really thrive. You do not need to be in pain, you do not need to lament your existence because you are so sensitive. Empathy contains a lot of useful skills that allow for you to feel life on a different level than most, for you to care for people and understand people on a really deep level. For you to make a huge difference in the world. At the very least knowing when people are lying is an incredibly useful skill. I have helped many Empaths become functional, learn skills, and learn to thrive in a world where “sensitive” is still not considered an admirable or useful trait. I offer 3 or 6 month programs as well as individual sessions for Empaths to learn all the skills they need to navigate their experiences, understand their experiences, and learn how to build a functional and quite wonderful (if I do say so myself) life with their abilities as a source of power instead of being a source of constant pain or detriment to their existence. If you are interested, you can contact me.

Spiritual Advice: Seeing Energetic Lines and Grids

Hi there. I sometimes see energetic lines. Sometimes in my bed at night I lie awake and can see grids and lines. This has just been happening the last few years. Sometimes they just look like faint lines, sometimes they look like a tic tac toe grid, and other times they look like a big net. They are varying colors, blue, silver, or white mostly. When I describe them to people they don’t know what I am talking about or they say that they are in my head. A practitioner I went to told me that I was seeing the grids that make up the universe. Can you tell me more about this?- Empath in San Diego

Hi Empath-

Yes, what you are describing is what is known as the grid system. It is actually pretty rare that people can see these, sometimes people get a sense of them… but it suggests to me that you are actually pretty advanced and highly clairvoyant (clear seeing) if you can actually see them.

I will attempt to keep this simple. We have energies that make up ourselves. This is our personal history, our family history, past lives, and our ancestral history. These all have to do with us, our own stories, or own energies, who we vitally are as people. As an interesting side note, a lot of people are not able to see past this point and think that everything in the universe is about them, or a reflection of themselves. But there are many energies past this point.

When we get past the energies that make up us and how we came to be as individuals… meaning our individual belief systems, stories, and the energies that inform our personal spiritual path and personal energetic history, we come to communal energies. These are the grids, or nets.

Once we get beyond the idea that we make up the universe we realize that collectively we make up our communities, our society, our state, our country, our world. As individuals we feed energy into this system, and by taking personal responsibility for our part in it we can do a lot of good. But there are hundreds, thousands, and even millions of people creating these energetic grids.

These grids are the collective energies that we all blindly are under the thrall of (well, most of us are). They inform our thoughts, our activities, our cosmologies. There are many grids ranging from grids that are fairly close to us (our community grids) to grids that comprise the universe. Most people when they are waking up see the closest grids, those of the community and societal grids. There are specific colors to the grids, but I do not teach them to people because then they have an expectation and start to self-create the grids instead of actually experiencing them directly (this happens all the time with the chakra system and colors).

Once we wake up to these grids we can transcend them. We can notice how our community is under a collective thrall, how our society is largely in a sleeper state and wishes to remain in that state (this is how we get things like the Kardashians), and we can then choose to act differently. This means that when we go out to the local restaurant or movie theater and notice how collective energies are causing people to act a certain way, or that most people are really asleep (especially to this level) and are moving through their lives in a really unconscious state we can acknowledge that this is happening. When we do this we will naturally transcend this level and act differently. When we wake up to a grid we can understand it and break free from it. 

Ideally this would be done grid by grid, starting with the grids closest to us and working our way out to universal grids. I will say that there are some really highly psychic individuals who unfortunately are plugged into the really large grids that have huge energies (like the world or universal grid) and are really unskilled (meaning they do not have the tools to deal with it and have no idea what is happening) which can actually have pretty devastating consequences on their life and health.

It is also worth a mention that once we transcend the world and universal grids that there are grids that make up the outer energies of the universe, like the grid of archetypes, collective consciousness, and mythic layers, as well as geometric patterns. There are also energetic lines that create the world- the earth, our land, our homes… which can be seen, felt, and worked with by some people. And beyond all this is the void, then pure consciousness, pure divinity, freedom, an awakened state, etc. Each of these grids is within our own body as well as is reflected in the universe. The more we break free from not only our own Self layers (our own history, past lives, ancestral and family wounds and belief systems) and the collective layers (the grid systems and collective energies we create as communities, states, and the world), the more freedom that we have and the closer we are to a truly awakened state.

So in summary: Yes, you are seeing the grid system. You are seeing collective energies. Acknowledge them, meditate on them, see how they affect you and those around you. If they are making you ill or you are feeling off balance because of them you simply need some skills to navigate them.I suggest looking at my books, particularly Managing Psychic Abilities, if you are interested in learning what your psychic experiences may mean, and how to work with them, or my Discernment course.

Due to the amount of emails received, Mary is unable to offer advice, guidance, or referrals via email.

Psychic Abilities and “Darkwork”: Death, Disease, and Darkness

One of the most common reasons why people who have actual psychic abilities and sensitivities find me is because they are able to sense, see, feel, hear, or use whatever their dominant psychic ability is to see death, disease, and/or destruction of some sort. This understandably freaks people out, especially when they are unskilled (meaning they have abilities but have not found an appropriate teacher and/or do not know how to set boundaries with their abilities or know how to use them properly and safely).

The other reason this concerns people is that we live in a spiritual “community” of lightworkers– meaning that most of the courses, books, and information out there… as well as what people are willing to talk about in most spiritual communities (even in many hardcore occult communities surprisingly these days)… is only fashioned on the light, or light work. Information on how to work with abilities surrounding “darkness” are met with disdain by others, or people who are “lightworkers” give really bad advice about transmuting darkness to light of some sort or will lecture you about how your abilities are evil, amoral, or not what you should be focusing on. This surprisingly happens with even discussions on what is considered “dark” work, such as working with the Earth, death, spirits, ghosts, curses, disease, working with primal emotions, sexual spirituality, herbs/rootwork and basically any sort of work that does not adhere to a rigid puritanical neo-spiritual cosmology.

And while I say the above and it seems like I have disdain for lightworkers, it simply is not true. I personally have capabilities and am rather dark in my nature (as well as am very light in my nature- when you are willing to work with and see your darkness in a balanced manner your light grows, and vice versa), and it took me a long time to find some of the information I am going to write here. It took me even longer to realize that there really is no “color” to anything- at a certain level everything is light, Brahman, Tao, Godhead (whatever you wish to call it). But I digress…

Seeing darkness, death, and disease can be extraordinarily helpful. I have trained to the extent that I can look at someone in my clinic and see what areas need work, what organs possibly carry disease, and what emotions are being held. I can see if issues/imbalances are being held in the emotional, physical, or spiritual levels of the body… and if they are from this life, past lives, ancestral sources, etc. I had a natural, innate ability to do this but before I became skilled I would just hazy smoke around people or shapes inside of people, a lack of flow in or around the body, or just had a sense of knowing without anything to back it up. Before I became skilled I could sense that someone was carrying something that was not theirs, but now I can see what it is and communicate with it (with boundaries). In clinic, in my spiritual practice, these skills can be very helpful.

But in my regular life they are not. You do not want to know what diseases your friends have, what sort of odd activities your teacher is up to (BDSM with an Asian fetish in one case), that the person in the grocery store line just lost their child and is in immense grief, or that a family member has something rather nasty attached to them that isn’t theirs. When you are unskilled, this information is overwhelming and the amount of stimuli that comes at you with abilities like these can be emotionally, spiritually, and physically harmful in a way that is difficult to describe. When you see disease and darkness everywhere you turn it is obviously extraordinarily difficult.

This scenario gets even more complicated when the matter of Death comes through. There are many psychics and sensitives that are able (through one or more psychic abilities) to see Death, or the psychopomp beings (basically Grim Reapers if we are being simple here), to see death in people, to know when and how they are going to die. This is typically a strong psychic ability… This gets a bit complicated because there is not one term for it beyond “Deathworker” “Darkworker” or “Darklighter”… which conjures up all sorts of images of evil and whatever society thinks of anything or anyone that is not a “lightworker”.

What I am saying, simply, is that a Darkworker is typically a highly psychic individual… and that can be through Clairvoyance (seeing), Clairaudience (hearing), Dreaming states, Precognitive states, Channeling, Mediumship, and/or someone with Psychopomp capabilities (for a little bit about Mediumship and Psychopomp abilities click here)… who can see and work with death, disease, destruction, primal emotions, and the Earth. We are needed, and in vastly short supply because many of us are not skilled, are overwhelmed, or feel this ability is “evil” because it is not “light”. 

The truth is that this is light, it is just not the light that is popularized and considered okay by neo-spiritual groups. Some of you with this ability may see that someone is going to die by the certain amount of light around them or how their energy field looks, some of you may sense the psychopomp beings around the person, some may have dreams or precognitive abilities where you know before someone is going to die (or right when they are going to die), some may hear that a specific person is going to, or some of you may have guides that tell you. There are specific ways that the ability to see Death comes through, even in the most unskilled of individuals, depending on your dominant sense. In most people, until they are skilled (and even then) it is through claircognizance – or simply knowing information about death, disease, and destruction (like of bombings, wars, terrorist attacks, etc) without knowing how or why you are getting the information. 

While Claircognizance is a wonderful and can be quite a strong psychic capability, when you are in an unskilled state with it the amount of information coming at you and the type of information coming at you, such as knowing time of death or who is going to pass when you are in a grocery store (or maybe even how) can be quite disconcerting.

So what to do about this ability?

  • The first thing to do is accept that on some level that you have it. This may be a long road, especially in a culture that is so obsessed with the “light”.
  • Figure out how you are getting your information- basically through what senses. Are you hearing, seeing, sensing, physically feeling in your body, or just knowing the information? Are you having dreams about it? Are you seeing information from the past, present, or future? You may not be able to answer all these questions, just do the best you can.
  • Get a sort of catalogue, or sense of what type of information you are getting. Is it time of death? A disease? Attachments or beings? Matter of death? Information about world events/destruction of some sort?
  • How does this information affect you when you receive it? Do you get a headache, do you react emotionally? Do you disassociate (leave your body)? Do you take on the disease, energy of death, or darkness into your own body?
  • This information may take you a while to gather, but most importantly know that you need to move from being unskilled to skilled with this ability. This is unfortunately not an ability that you can learn fully about from books (or even through this post). Because it is fairly individualized, you need a teacher or training of some sort to work with it. This teacher will tell you how you are receiving your information, what psychic abilities you have, what the effects are on you (the questions above, basically), and most importantly how to work with it.
  • There is typically a reason for you having this ability. For some it may be to become a medical intuitive, for others a hands-on healer, for some a spiritual healer who works with darkness, hospice work such as nursing or volunteering, or psychopomp work (moving souls on). It may be that it is part of your own healing and spiritual path, and you are intended to work spiritually with darkness, the dark void, the psychopomp beings, even Death itself.

Learning how and why as well as how to maintain boundaries and safety is essential if you have natural capabilities with this work. When you are naturally psychic you will have all sorts of events, happenings, and energies around you that may be very good, or may put your physical health and energetic/spiritual safety in jeopardy. That is not intended to frighten, it just is what it is. If you are reading this and already have these capabilities, it is likely that this is already occurring- and that you have disrupted sleep, fatigue and pains in your body, digestive issues, headaches, emotional lability, and sometimes freak out a bit in the grocery store (sometimes without knowing why). This doesn’t need to happen. With skills you can learn how to work with the information so it doesn’t have an impact. You can be initiated into specific understandings with specific energies, learn spiritual protection, and even (to a certain extent, admittedly) turn off (and to a much greater extent) simply notice the information being given to you without processing it or letting it flow through you without registering and having to deal with it.


Thoughts on Clearing Spirits and Energies

One of the more common beginner responses to noticing a spirit, being, or other energy in your space is to fear it and want to clear it. Many of us are asleep to the extent that we do not notice that the spiritual is all around us. It is not separate from us. We are constantly surrounded by spirits, beings and other energies.

When we notice anything not physical, as in something outside of the realm of being commonly noticed, the first response is typically to go into controlling and assault mode. We sage and clear and clean until we feel safe again. Or, basically, until we no longer notice it. This allows for us to feel in control of our surroundings, this allows us to feel safe. It allows for us to perpetuate the myth that the spiritual is somehow “out there” and we need to do shamanic journeys or meditate or work to access it… and that when it accesses us it is something to clear and fear.

The truth of the matter is that we are constantly surrounded by energies, by spirits, by emotions and grids and thoughtforms… by the history of the place we are in, by the elements that surround us. Due to a lack of spiritual understanding of death rites there are many spirits around us all. Most of us simply are not sensitive enough to notice anything that is not concrete, and beyond that our egos and belief systems get in the way so we further fall into a state of illusion and not-seeing. Most people, in fact, when they clear don’t do it appropriately and simply fall into a state of illusion that the spirit is gone, or that they have cleared their home.

Instead of reacting to anything not physical, or possibly spirit-oriented as being something to “fear and clear”, learning about what surrounds you and the understanding level to know what to do, if anything, about the situation, is the best thing to do in situations like this. There are plenty of spirits that wish no harm. They just are there. We happen to simply occupy space with them. There are also imprints of the past we think are conscious spirits. There are also ancestors, guides, and all sorts of spirits and beings that are helpful and can be teachers to us. And yes, there are harmful spirits, but they are fairly rare.

Simply because you notice a spirit in your space does not mean you need to clear it. Plenty of people do not mind occupying the same space as a spirit as long as there are ground rules. People can reach the understanding level to know if a spirit is something that is helpful, not helpful, or simply happens to be there. People can learn the tools to know how to respectfully work with the unseen, the spirit world, with openness, respect, and know-how. Simply because we see something outside of ourselves that we cannot control we do not need to go into “fear and clear” mode. By learning how to successfully work with spirits we can move beyond that, and open ourselves to seeing more of what is actually around us. We can move beyond the state of willful ignorance, fear, and wish to control everything around us. Even the most advanced sensitive can never truly know everything around them, but when you approach the spiritual world as simply flowing through the physical world, as part of it, instead of something to fear or going into a state of spiritual bypass where you think spiritual things are somehow separate or different than our physical world, you can open up to knowing more about the spiritual world and how to work with it properly.

Mary assists sensitives, psychics, and people undergoing spiritual awakenings to learn how to work with their abilities and experiences. You can contact her here with questions about readings, programs, and individual appointments.