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Working with Cultural Energies

One of the things I have been working a fair amount with professionally and personally is with cultural energies.

I do quite a bit of ancestral healing– it is one of my focuses and passions. Ancestral healing can result in huge changes and release of long-standing patterns, especially powerful emotions and belief patterns.

I do find that people are “catching on” so to speak, with ancestral healing, and I am thankful for that. I do find it humorous that spiritual workers have been working with ancestral energies, and ancestral healing, for thousands of years, and recent techniques and psychotherapeutic oriented modalities act like they were the first ones to discover it or even think about it.

I also recognize more and more these days that removing things from their spiritual roots and re-creating them to be mental techniques and more palatable and recognizable to the “masses” causes them to lose their essence and much of their power… but I have also learned that people will, in general, find the healing that they are ready for.

I do find that with more mainstream acceptance or discussion that people will sometimes realize that they can accept that these energies are having an effect on them (because “society” has told them so), and so they are open to considering it, and of eventually working with it… which I am thankful for as well.

For more about ancestral work, you can read these prior blogs (ancestral healing; working with your ancestral line; ancestral healing and curses; understanding the gifts of our ancestors)

In doing all of this ancestral work I have noticed with some individuals that some of the healing work extends beyond that. In those cases, the healing of culture, and of cultural constructs becomes incredibly relevant as well as healing.

In “new-age” (I hate that word/construct, but it is the best way to describe mainstream spirituality) thought I come across the idea quite a bit that “we are all one” which typically means someone telling everyone else that they don’t see culture, race, gender, and so forth, and that those constructs are meaningless. (side note, in actual oneness states you are able to sense the oneness as well as the individuality of everyone and everything– something that people who have not actually experienced this state do not understand)

In spiritual healing, this is a complete falsehood. Our individual makeup, who we are, what society, race, gender, and culture we have emerged from is incredibly important. It is important because those energies, those essences, have created our beliefs, understandings, abilities, power, and pain in this world. It has created our wounds as well as our beauty.

The culture that we come from can have certain beliefs and understandings similar to the way trauma is carried in our ancestral line. But cultural energies typically are a bit bigger. They have to do with loss of power, generally. Or even more generally, they have to do with the mis-use of power.

What I mean by this is that if we have come from a culture that experienced a lot of war and sacrifice, in that culture there may be a current of pain or despair due to another culture “taking” from them. Taking their power, basically.

Or in another culture they may have a legacy of being an oppressor– of taking from another culture. This energy may be a current of fear, greed, or shame.

How is this Different From Ancestral Energies?
So in this same situation a client may come to me whose ancestors were slaves. Those individuals (the people who experienced slavery) may have had individual traumas, as well as individual realizations– beliefs and understandings about themselves and the world– which were then passed down to my client through the ancestral line.

These energies are now held by the client until they can reconcile them, until they can heal them, and until they can come to a space of recognizing how those energies have impacted them.

Once these energies have healed– the individual stories, beliefs, and the actual ancestors have been healed (a big difference between mental work and spiritual work, by the way, is the understanding that the ancestors are still with us, and still can be communicated with and worked with as conscious beings), the strength and beauty of the ancestry can come through. It is truly a beautiful process.

Cultural energies are more like webs– webs we are connected to if we are a part of that culture (we are a strand of that web, basically). Or another way of looking at it is that cultural energies are like currents (like an ocean). If we are part of a specific culture, that current flows through us and informs us. (As another side note, this is why I will tell people to connect to their own ancestral practices and cultural practices, because they can easily tap into this current).

In the above situation (the client whose ancestors experienced slavery) there is also the cultural energy there. Basically, this means that this current is one not of the individual ancestor needing to be healed, or even the beauty of the individual ancestral line being carried through, but the cultural energy of many people from that culture being enslaved and the energies of pain, fear/terror, grief, rage/anger, and more that emerged from that culture as a result of this culture as a whole experiencing slavery… and that energy becoming a part of the current that informs my individual client.

But more importantly, the above cultural energy has to do with being “taken” from. A loss of power. A taking of power.

So obviously working with one individual and their cultural energies is not going to erase this pain, this legacy. It would be silly to suggest that, and quite frankly, disrespectful to the culture and to the experiences they had.

In fact, I would not suggest erasing that history (another “new-age” popular thing to do it seems). Our history has created that current. Out of pain emerges beauty, wisdom, and spiritual practices (as a side note, I do think that a lot of people do not understand this, and will gravitate towards the “trendy” spiritual culture and their practices, not understanding that if they do not know the history, or why the spiritual practices emerged… if they cannot place themselves in that current I describe here… Many powerful spiritual practices emerged out of necessity, out of a direct and specific history.. and without understanding the “why” the practices will simply be a form of play-acting and essentially powerless).

But through that one individual this loss of power, and the emotions that have arisen because of it, can be healed.

Or through an individual, the ill-gotten power and “taking” that have happened, and how that cultural energy has manifested… how that current of energy flows through that individual, can be healed.

This means that working with cultural energies has to do with balancing of power.

But it also means that working with cultural energies– healing that current that comes through that one individual– can allow for them to realign with the beauty, strength, and magnificence of the individual culture that they are from (or if they are from many cultures, to embrace that individual culture that we have worked on, as well as eventually perhaps their other cultures in time).

The current (or grid) that creates such a strong legacy (often an incredibly understandable one) of pain, chaos, trauma, and strong emotions… can then be recognized as a source of power.

When we recognize the culture we emerge from as a source of power we are more willing to look interior, to trust our own strength, to recognize the beauty of our own culture. Each culture that is on this planet is beautiful– with its own current that has unique energies that compose it. If we are able to recognize the beauty and strength, and fully step into the current of our culture, we can feel more aligned, powerful, and our spiritual path can often be revealed to us in really powerful ways.

I will say that this work is for everyone… but it is not for everyone. That means that typically there needs to be ancestral healing done before larger forces, such as ancestral energies, can be worked with. Such work can reveal and release the ways in which we have culturally lost or inappropriately gained power, and how to set that dynamic right within the context of our individual bodies and lives, however.

Advanced Aspects of Past Life Healing

In the past I have talked about one of the basic services that I offer– resolving past life issues.

You can read the blog about past lives and why they may need to be healed here

Basically, in a Spiritual Healing session, someone may come to me with an idea that they have a past life issue or trauma that they would like to resolve, or they may have no idea what is going on with themselves. Typically people come to spiritual healing work when they have kind of been through the gamut of counselors and associated health providers, both allopathic and holistic, and their issue remains unresolved; the person is then more likely to want to look at things in another way (through a spiritual lens) or they may have simply exhausted their other options… or they may realize that whatever they are experiencing that there is no reason for them to experience that type of fear, pain, or difficulty due to their own experiences of this world.

It is important to realize that when someone comes to me they don’t have to know that they are having past life issues (or ancestral issues, or be in need of spirit release, and so forth). Sometimes people do, and that is wonderful. But even those people may be surprised at what comes up in a session. I will say that personally I don’t care if the energy that emerges in the session is past life, ancestral, cultural, from another person, or from your own lifetime: the focus of my sessions is always on working with whatever energies emerge with compassion and clarity so you can resolve them. All I need from you during a Spiritual Healing session is to be willing and able to look at patterns that may emerge, wherever they may come from, so you can get the best healing session possible, and heal as much as you are ready to.

I will say that some Past Life work I find a bit melodramatic and sensationalistic. I have no interest in telling you that you were Cleopatra in a past life. The focus of all of my spiritual healing work is to allow for you to clear, heal, and resolve imbalances (emotions and energies) in a spiritual manner…. and for you to move forward in a freer, healthier, and more functional manner in your life.

All of that being said, I would like to talk about some more complex past life issues that I work with.

As the more basic blog states, sometimes past life resolution is somewhat simple. Someone didn’t die well, or had trauma or difficulties or a disease process that was not energetically or emotionally resolved at the time of death, so that energy lingers. By resolving whatever happened to this individual, the energy and emotions from that past incarnation can clear.

I have seen some profound results from doing this type of simple past life work– heavy emotions and even physical pains lessening or even releasing completely.

However, in complex past life issues there may be more than one inter-related linking issue. By this sometimes when a past incarnation doesn’t heal, this energy is passed down, and passed down, and passed down again. Think of this as a series of those old paper dolls that would be cut out of paper with their hands joining– with the original creator on one end (the person who an original trauma happened to) and you on the other. There may be one, two, ten, or fifty “paper dolls” in between you.

Or you can think of this as a long rope– on one end is the knot that was originally formed due to difficult emotions, trauma, and so forth… with a series of knots in the rope going all the way to you.

These are obviously difficult things to talk about, and to get across clearly, so I will use a (somewhat) simple example. Say in a past life you lived in a country in which war broke out and you were starving. The emotions of fear and anger built up inside you. These energies were never healed, and were passed down to the next past life. This person was wealthy, but they hoarded their money and never enjoyed it because of this fear passed down from the original past life. Then in the next life this person had difficulty feeding their family and had a lot of scarcity and felt a lot of anger about their situation because they were well educated but could never seem to get ahead (partially if not fully because of this original energy).

And now you are you… in this current lifetime… and no matter what you do you cannot save money. You have a full pantry with any type of food you want and you still fear running out. You have a lot of anger and fear about “lack”, and while you do not technically “lack”– you and your children have enough (maybe not enough for extras, but you have food in your bellies), there is still this sense of fear here.

So I will give my typical caveat when talking about money, since I used it as an example. A fair amount of people who are looking for spiritual answers for things such as money need to look at the “mundane”– either first, or even instead of the spiritual. By this I mean that if you do not know how to properly balance a budget, that is the place to start. If you are having physical or mental issues that are causing you to not be able to find work, those need to be looked at either in conjunction with or instead of more esoteric spiritual causes.

By this I also mean that we can heal the past life energy (energies) which will have an impact, but if someone is not willing to take personal responsibility in this world for their experiences of that energy, they are still going to have blockages energetically and emotionally.

I will explain this further because it is an important point…

So I will return to the “originator”– the person whose experiences in their lifetime created this energy. When the next person experienced it, they had that energy plus their own experiences and emotions with that energy. I know I am mixing analogies, but think of this as a small snowball rolling down a hill– each lifetime it will pick up more “snow”: snow that may have different qualities (different energies and emotions based on the experiencer and their lifetime).

To get even more complex, the snowball may completely switch course, and start rolling down a different hill. By this I mean that the energy started by being about fear and lack and anger, but one of the lifetimes added on grief, as well as perhaps the energy of a robbery because they felt like they needed to steal from others… so now we have violence added on to this “snowball”, and a feeling of needing to take from others.

So to heal this the “originator” needs to be healed through spiritual work, as well as all of the other knots (or paper dolls, or layers of snowball). Those other knots/dolls/snowball layers are best healed through working as far back and going as far back the chain as possible. This is because a lot more energy and emotions can be released if there is understanding and healing with how it started. If we start in the middle of a story, there will be more confusion, and you are likely to walk away with some or a lot of that energy remaining.

So I do realize all of this sounds a bit complicated, and I could introduce topics like karma (non new-age concept of karma, I mean), karmic connections, or even more complications into this… as these energies can twist and change. But these energies can also untwist and heal and resolve.

The start and end of a past life healing session always has to do with you (you, in your current incarnation, just for clarity). With your body, with what you are experiencing (what emotions, what sensations in your body). That is how we start our exploration. If a past life energy comes up, we work with it, however much you are ready for and however far back you are ready to go. Sometimes we just need to explore one lifetime, and sometimes there are twists and turns and a giant snowball to take care of. Either way I am a patient guide who simply wants for people to experience more freedom in their lives, and to experience less chaos, and more peace.

To end past life work we also end with the body. It is easy to sort of go into a mode of “blaming” past life energies for everything. But you have taken on that energy and have had your own experiences of it. By providing healing and releasing energies from you, and your current body, it will allow for you to understand how you have reacted to an energy being passed down to you like this, as well as can provide you some insight, or “homework” as I like to call it, for you to take action in your world to fully resolve this energy. This taking action in your own world, once this energy begins clearing (integration and healing of this type of work can take quite a bit of time, but is generally gentle, especially after the first few days after the session), allows for you to “reformulate your world”– or basically, to integrate this energy and learn how to operate in the world without it.

As a side note, I occasionally get asked what sort of healing is best, or what I have found most effective in my personal path… basically I think this question is something like “what has allowed for me to transcend the most amount of ‘stuff’ that has been blocking me” (not like I don’t still have stuff to work on, by the way), but my answer would be past life healing, ancestral healing, and inner child (including in utero) work. These three, both individually and together, have made drastic changes in my world and allowed for healing on a level that I never thought possible.

As a last side note, I will say that when someone schedules with me although they may have an interest in a specific “technique” such as past life healing, I prefer to keep things open. By this I mean I ask that you come to me with a specific topic in mind, such as working with fear, or digestive issues, or feelings of being stuck, but that you remain open enough to explore whatever comes up– which provides the best and most effective healing for you during the session.

If you had interest in scheduling, or wanted to see if we would be a good fit to work together, you can contact me here, or read about spiritual healing session basic info here

In Utero Healing… and Connecting to Source

birth-466140_640One of the largest unhealed sources of pain for people is the in utero experience.

If we were wanted, how we were treated, and how we came together energetically and spiritually while in utero determines a great deal of our thinking about ourselves and the world around us for the rest of our lives.

How we were born, what sort of love and support we felt, the physical nature of the birth experience will create our understandings of if this world is a place that we feel we are struggling to be a part of on a consistent basis, or if the world is something we move through with ease.

Any trauma that we experience in utero or in the birthing process makes a significant imprint on us. 

Trauma during this time can be physical (did we get enough nutritionally, did we have enough space, and so forth), emotional (what were our mother’s thoughts/emotions about us being born, what were our father’s thoughts/emotions, what were our own?, how did the household as a whole react to the realization that we were there… or that we were going to be born?), energetic/spiritual (what energies did we come in with? what ancestral, past life, karmic energies and residue is already there? what is society like, what sort of world are we being born into at the time of our birth?)

I realize this is a large list, but there is even more to consider than these basic questions…

Our in utero and birth experience is not only a significant imprint, it is (arguably) the single most important imprint that we form.

Our first breath, in fact, teaches us about the basic energetics of the world. Was our first breath easy for us? Did we feel supported and loved in this time? Our first breath energetically sets the basis for our basic energetic nature throughout our lives as long as it remains unhealed.

This means that if we are gasping for air, we might have a basic energetic nature of feeling like life can never support us… as if we are continually drowning and grabbing on to anything around us to help us throughout life. If we freely breathe in our first breath but we are not in the vicinity of our mother or father, we may not feel supported or loved by life. If our first breath is in any way problematic, we may find ourselves being more of a “taker” in this world, or in competition with others, because our first imprint of the physical world (our first breath) was that we needed to fight for our place in this world.

As we are developing in utero a variety of energies come together to create us. 

We are a grouping of energies, and we come together for the purposes of this lifetime. In utero is the time that we come together spiritually, when our basic spiritual grids are formed that determine everything from our physical nature to our emotions to many of our beliefs. While many of these energies may come from different sources (energies from karmic, past lives, family, ancestral) while these energies are coming together we are also drastically influenced by the container we are formed in (the in utero experience).

So in utero we are a formation of energy, carrying over varying imprints from other sources, and they are creating our own blueprint for the purposes of our individual lifetime. But the emotions, energies, beliefs, and circumstances of the time in utero (especially coming from the mother, but the father as well is a part of this) can drastically change these blueprints. 

The single most common belief that comes from having difficult or traumatizing in utero experiences is the belief that we are not intended to be here… or that the Earth doesn’t support us. A very similar belief coming from this time is the belief that we need to do everything ourselves, or that nobody loves, likes, or supports us.

We may also feel like the world, or the people in it, are out to get us, dislike us, or that we are somehow separate from the Earth or society. Other common issues stemming from this time are consciously wanting to die (latent or not-so-latent death wish), a background of latent emotion that doesn’t seem to come from anywhere (this can be ancestral or from other sources as well, but can be from this, such as constantly being filled with rage or grief for no reason), significant self esteem and self-worth issues, self-destructive tendencies (yes, I include addiction with this, although it can be a lot of different behaviors), and overwhelming emotions that arise when the subjects of birth, in utero experiences, while having a child yourself, or conscious knowledge of trauma during the in utero experience or birthing process.

This is not a comprehensive list, but as you can see, a lot of people have large unhealed energies from the in utero experience. Just because you have one “symptom” doesn’t mean you have an unhealed in utero experience, by the way, but as many people do, it is a safe bet to assume that something could be healed there for most people.

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One of the biggest reasons why many people take so much in this world is because they were not given the nurturing and support they needed, the healing they needed in utero. 

Again, this is one of the biggest reasons we constantly feel in competition with others, and feel as if the world is not a safe place to be. Interestingly, I have worked with many people who really have felt like (and actually are) from “someplace else” (keeping things general) and while they very well might be, or are, the more significant piece of healing beyond healing the origin story is always the in utero experience.

If we feel we were wanted, loved, and supported in utero we will feel wanted, supported, and loved by the world.

But while we cannot have conscious recall (well, most of us) of the in utero circumstances in order to heal this, we can heal this through spiritual work. We can retrace our steps and heal everyone involved until we have a good birth– the birth we wanted. We can consciously decide to incarnate, to be here, and to connect again to ourselves, to the people around us, and to the Earth itself.

And I will likely write another blog about this, but we can go back and go through our births and heal them. There is such a thing as a good birth, and a good death, and proper spiritual work can heal both of those things.

We can go all the way back until we are able to remember our initial separation from Source, our being birthed from oneness into individuality. This is often a profound process for people to work through, as there is often a great deal of grief, rage, and misunderstanding of being separated from Source. Healing our separation from source can have a profound impact on our lives, if we are ready and willing to go there.

We can truly begin to feel loved and wanted by the Earth, despite whatever our actual circumstances were. While we cannot change the physicality of things (lack of nourishment, for example) we can dramatically have an impact on the imprints we have developed, and clear the emotions, beliefs, and imbalanced grids that developed during this crucial time.

We can have a first breath that allows for life to fill our lungs, and to feel totally sustained by this world.

If you would like to work with me, you can contact me. I work via Skype/phone worldwide, and require people to write me a bit about why they would like an appointment with me so I can make certain that I can help them. You can find out more information about my ethics and practices here, and contact me here.

Healing Karma (and the Role of the Persecutor)

Throughout our perhaps long, winding path of healing ourselves we have come to understand that we have been victimized many times.

This is not an illusion. We have all experienced trauma, difficult situations, and have been in a state of real victimhood– being held captive by a persecutor or two who has caused us real, irreparable harm.

It is incredibly important to heal these inner victims– and to reconcile the harm that has befallen us. If we do not, we are still victims in our own lives, consistently feeling persecuted against by those that surround us (as well as the world).

If we do not heal our inner victim, we act out our patterns of victimhood again and again unconsciously, unknowingly… Whatever our pain and own unique brand of chaos, we act it out with the people and circumstances that surround us until we are able to heal it.

But a funny thing happens the more you heal your victimhood state(s), all of those past incidents in which you have had harm come against you because you were too young, or the force or circumstances were too great for you to bear.

Some of us, if we are willing, begin to understand and reconcile the times we were a persecutor, in which we have made victims of those around us.

It is a difficult thing to reconcile. We in fact have no issue thinking and acting out our victimhood state, the idea that we were wounded or hurt by another is not really news to us, and we are all too willing to accept it.

But the idea that we have harmed others, through our actions, our thoughts, and our emotions most of us cannot process. Or are not willing to.

And this is where karma comes in.

We can get into philosophical debates about karma if you like, but I will say what my understanding and direct experience of karmic patterns are. 

As I have mentioned in the past, I spent a great deal of time steeped in intellectualism and actually with each year, or month really, that passes I am less and less interested in sitting around and talking about such constructs. I don’t see much point in it… I would rather “do”: practices, work with others, and develop healing methods that are effective and practical… and I would rather “be”: meaning that I have little interest in questioning every thing that comes into my life, because I really have no idea what is happening to me about 70 percent of the time spiritually, even still.

So there are many understandings of karma, but here are my basics… In a past incarnation or through a past family member/part of our ancestral lineage there was an action that took place, complete with beliefs and understandings, emotions, and a story behind that action.

This action was so “large”– meaning that it had consequences– that it had a ripple effect down through your lives or through your ancestry.

And what is most important, is that if we trace this back far enough, that the originator of the karma was in fact not a victim, but a persecutor. 

This is important to understand. Again, we have no issue treking through our past lives, our ancestry (well most of us at a certain point don’t, but I am always surprised still when people want to argue with a spiritual worker that their family, ancestry can impact them.. but I digress) to tell the story of our victimhood, how we have been harmed. Again, this is important work to heal.

But the originator of our karma is, in most cases, someone who caused difficulty, chaos, and harm to another.

And we experience this pattern in our next incarnations until we heal it.

So this can present a few ways. And I will use an example here, to be clear.

A woman came to me feeling like she always needed to hide, that there was danger in her showing herself. She wanted consciously to be seen, but her whole life she felt invisible, was treated as invisible, and had difficulty speaking, being heard, and in fact showing up in any sort of way to her life.

She had many reasons for this from her own lifetime. Severe childhood abuse, a naturally shy disposition, psychic abilities and sensitivities that caused her to feel that the world was a chaotic place to be.

But she also had many past lives in which she needed to be hidden– wars, famines, and the sort of lives where it was in fact dangerous for her to be seen, because being seen meant that she would be raped, killed, sent to war or a death camp.

This was all important healing, and as we worked with this she came out of her shell, and was able to be seen for the first time in her life– at work, finding a partner and fulfilling sexual relationship, and so forth.

But as we worked she realized that she had a past life, and an originator of this pattern. This originator was someone who had been essentially a soldier who was responsible for sealing people up in catacombs, and trying to find people who escaped into those catacombs. He didn’t want to do this, and felt a bit of guilt, but it was either cooperating with those in charge or having harm come to himself.

I am talking about this person because this understanding is fairly typical, if we are willing to go to this depth in our own consciousness.

Most of us are not. We are not ready, willing, or able to think of ourselves in the “persecutor” role, whether it be from our own lifetime, and the karma we are accumulating from the various actions, thoughts, and realizations that we are going to pass on to our next incarnation(s) or down our family line, or from our past lives or ancestry passed to our current incarnation.

It takes a real depth of consciousness, a real willingness to fully heal, to work through patterns like this.  It also requires going beyond the surface levels, and stopping to realize that the “spiritual teachers” and “healers” who are suggesting that you can clear karma by waving your hands around or chanting their mantra, or any method that allows for us to simply, neatly, and clearly cut away our karma without understanding it or reconciling it may not know what they are talking about.

Until we reconcile what happened, we can only heal so much. Until we take personal responsibility, fully and with great courage, we can only heal so much.

We are all so used to the victimhood state, and that is important, if not essential to heal. In fact, it must be healed first, and often for a long period of time. But some people are ready to move beyond that, to really heal the root reasons of why they unconsciously move through patterns, why they are acting out these patterns with specific people in their lives, why there is so much unspoken energy between you and another when it just doesn’t make sense given the context of your lifetime.

For those willing to go to those depths, you can truly release patterns like this. To free yourself from not only the victim but the persecutor. To no longer be unconsciously moving through your life, through your relationships, with unspoken energy pressed on you from various incarnations and karmic energies.

It just requires a person of depth, and of courage, and of readiness.

If you are interested in releasing karmic energies, old contracts, various victimhoods, and/or even the persecutor, you can contact me… I will say that many people are not ready for this type of healing, and it is in our nature to jump to the most advanced thing we can think of (from A to Z, as the saying goes) without working with anything in the middle. Some of the middle needs to be worked with, and this work is typically for people who have been on a healing path for quite a while. But you can contact me with interest, and we can work with whatever energies show up for you to heal, and at whatever level you are ready to heal them.

Discernment of Spiritual Energies: Tools for Psychics and Sensitives

One of the biggest teaching segments that I do for people who are in my email programs is how to discern energies. This is an important topic that is rarely covered by others.

The truth is that the spiritual is all around us. Energies, spirits, beings, energetic fields, emotions, thoughtforms… and much more

Most of us can only see very little of what is around us. We call what most people see “reality” in that a large percentage of us will agree about such things. Yes, there is a chair in the corner of the room. Yes, that movie starred Hugh Jackman. We think of these things as concrete, and quite frankly we think of these things as being the only things there.

People get in huge disagreements about this. It is the whole debate between “science” and holistic medicines, where science seeks to reduce things down to concrete reality and what we currently know to be true through the mainstream current thought patterns and observable phenomena by people interested only in the concrete… and others who acknowledge that there are energies and spirits and all sorts of things we cannot observe or understand.

Interestingly, such fields as Acupuncture, as they become more popular, are finding themselves with a lot of “concrete” and linear types of thinkers who want to re-create Acupuncture to be about neuromuscular junctions and things that are acceptable by modern, “concrete” thinkers. While this does help programs such as Acupuncture programs in hospitals for cancer children (which I love and totally support) it has rendered the medicine of Acupuncture to be more and more ineffective, with practitioners that cannot cultivate qi (which is the heart of the medicine and how it works) for the life of them.

But the ability to see or sense the things around us is a bit of a bell curve. Before the bell curve goes for its swoop upward are the people who only will notice things that are physical, and will often refuse to sense or see anything else. These people will negate emotions, feeling states, or anything non-physical or accepted by pretty much everyone around them.

We then have the entirety of the curve. As the curve goes up to its apex is where most people generally are. Some are able to sense emotions, feelings, and so forth. Some of these people are mildly sensitive to spiritual stimuli– meaning that when the previous categories may notice five things in a room, they may notice five things in that room, an emotion, and a sense that the house they are in is dark, or something bad might have happened there. As the curve goes downward we get people that are more and more sensitive… who are more and more able to receive, understand, sense, and see spiritual stimuli. As the curve goes flat again we get the highly sensitive person, who is typically so inundated with stimuli coming from all sources– physical, emotional, energetic, spiritual– that it is difficult for them to function. 

I typically work with people on the other side of that bell curve– who are having difficulty with how much they sense, see, or feel that is not considered “concrete” reality.

But because so many people, and the vast majority of the population is on that other side of the bell curve, proper discernment of energy and spirits is never taught.

Because so much of the “spiritual” community is intended for the aspirational type, the ones who want to become more sensitive, and generally wouldn’t know something spiritual or energetic if it was doing the hokey-pokey in front of them in a bar, the general teaching is that spiritual work is safe (I won’t go on another rant, but you can read this blog if you want it) and that anything spiritual that you are able to see, sense, taste, hear (you get my point) is intended for you and is there for you. 

This is simply not true. The spiritual is all around us– our world has many, many energies, beings, spirits, emotions, thoughts, and so forth that interweave and live side by side with our world. You just don’t notice them. 

So realizing that as a sensitive (I tend to use this word more than psychic, because like the word Shaman it tends to bring negative connotations in outer culture and the aspirational community) that you are simply noticing more that is right in front of you is an important realization. 

The spiritual is not somewhere else. It is not separate. It is right here. It is in front of you, doing the hokey-pokey.

As a sensitive, if you are able to reconcile the above realization you will come to understand that, much like what we consider “concrete reality” we may not want to trust everything that we see or sense. Simply because something comes up to us and says that they are our guide doesn’t make it so, for example. I would liken this to someone coming up to you in a bar and telling you that they are an investment banker who has a BMW. Just because they say it doesn’t make it true.

We are under the false illusion that the spiritual is safe, that it is here to help us, that if we just think positively or imagine white light or sage our homes that we are safe doing whatever and interacting with whatever in the spiritual realms. But for those of us who are sensitive, this simply isn’t true.

I do not intend to strike a chord of fear. It really isn’t my intent. My purpose is to get you to truly think about what you are interacting with if you are sensitive. It may be the most loving guide that is full of wisdom and intended just for you to help you along your spiritual path. It may also be a former human who you probably shouldn’t be taking advice from. You wouldn’t let a stranger into your home, and you wouldn’t believe a guy or girl who comes up to you at a coffee shop telling you that they can make you famous. The same considerations apply to the spirit world. 

It is typical for the highly sensitive (that person on the end or on the flat part of the end of that bell curve) are so inundated with spiritual stimuli, and are in such a cycle of overwhelm, that they cannot discern anything at all. Having a vision to anyone who does not have them sounds interesting. Having thirty thousand visions at the same time is not. Sensing more than other people do sounds wonderful. But when the “normal” person can sense or see twenty things in a room and you sense 20,000 it goes from simply being sensitive to an emergency situation. When someone is highly mediumistic, for example, and closes their eyes to see many people waving their hands at them for help it is not interesting. It interferes with your life and ability to function.

At some point on this spectrum things get physical. Headaches, digestive issues, sleep issues, bad dreams, nosebleeds, and constant feelings of being on edge or being watched. Constant and debilitating fatigue, autoimmune issues, migraines, and pain are the most common issues that highly sensitive people face. But there are also the feelings of intense emotions (that may or may not be yours) as well as the fluctuating nature of have the “highs” of large influxes of energy and then the “lows” of crashes after spiritual experiences. All of this I will get into in another blog soon.

But for the highly sensitive person (or even the moderately sensitive person) we really are only able physiologically to process so much energy at a time. And most of us are not “clear” or even close to it so the energy gets stuck in our bodies. Most people who are sensitive (either moderately or highly) have learned how to subconsciously shield, or have had horrible advice about creating shields, thoughtforms, or “sealing the aura” from authors and teachers. Unfortunately this is created out of your own energy, typically, adding to the fatigue. This also creates a mechanism where more energy gets stuck within you, creating more physical and emotional problems. We are intended to have proper flow in and out of our bodies of energy. Adding more obstructions, shields, or “seals” is not the solution to this. It just creates more issues.

So what is the solution? 

1. Discernment of energies. When we know enough about what we are sensing we can start to create a sort of file cabinet psychically. We can begin to categorize and release energy and stimuli at the level in needs to be, and in the way it needs to release.

This work is typically not taught because, quite frankly, most of us are not highly sensitive. But for even moderately sensitive people discernment of energies is needed. You need to know if the guy at the bar who is telling you about his stock portfolio and how he rescues kittens from sewers on the weekends actually does those things. You also need to know if the “guy” at the bar is actually a guy– or is a former human, being, energy, or something else entirely.

Many sensitive people need to learn what is theirs, and what is not in terms of energetics and emotions. Learning who you are and taking control of your physical body will significantly decrease physical, emotional, and even spiritual issues.

These are all skills that can be taught.

What else is needed? Proper safety and precautions for interacting with the spiritual world. A spiritual bouncer, or energy that can create a layer of protection for you. Real, trustworthy guides and energies that can assist you that have been thoroughly vetted and you know how to work with properly.

Any sensitive needs to properly know how to clear their home and how to protect their home and themselves. Sensitives have a tendency to attract all sorts of energies to them. Some of these energies wish to attach themselves to our energy field or physical bodies for assistance of some sort, or more typically, for our energy. A proper, strong routine of clearing, banishing, and protection is needed for any highly sensitive person. Most of the materials that are out there commonly (sage, for example) are actually pretty weak. There are much stronger tools out there, and for someone who is highly or moderately sensitive, a spiritual bathing routine can be literally life-changing and life-saving.

Beyond that, you need to be educated about the different types of energies and how to work with them. So discernment, but also learning tools for how to understand, work with, or clear different types of energies. There are a lot of different types of energies, beings, and spirits out there. They all can be properly understood and worked with. Some people do not want to work with them, but even these people need to understand what surrounds them so they can react appropriately and effectively.

We are surrounded by stimuli of all types. Most of us only notice a very small fraction of what is around us. Some of us notice a slightly larger fraction. And for those people, it can be overwhelming. For those people, it can lead to very real physical, emotional, and spiritual issues that nobody really talks about or knows how to help with. We think of the spiritual realms as being separate, and if anything comes our way it is intended for us. It is not. Most of what the highly sensitive person notices is just energy, spirits, and other things that are simply present in the environment. Proper discernment and the learning of proper tools can help the sensitive person who simply notices more of the world than others to be functional, happy, healthy, to understand what is going on, and to be safe and in control of their own body. If you are interested in learning these tools, you can contact me. I would be happy to look at your situation to see if I can be of assistance. You can read more about my ethics here.

Dangers of Soul Retrieval part two

In this earlier blog I gave a few case studies of people who have come to me after soul retrievals went wrong. You can read this blog here…

I have gotten feedback from this, some straight towards me via email (my preferred method) or through the grapevine (energetic or through email) via gossip. I always find it funny how passive-aggressive, generally back-biting, gossiping, and negative “white lighter” types can be, or the “core” shamanic types who get threatened by anything that is already not in their wheelhouse, so to speak. Although this is certainly another blog in and of itself, when we are not truthful with ourselves about our emotions and our core self… when we are pretending to be all about positivity and white light… we generally ignore and have our negativity “brew” inside of us.  It is rare that the types of people who want to think only of positivity and react negatively to anything (meaning any thought or realization) that was not given to them by others and fits into their own preconceptions and limitations that they impose on the universe lead happy, meaningful lives. Because they do not live up to their own standards. And it is rare that they are effective or powerful practitioners.

But that is not my battle. People can gossip, spread hate under the guise of being a “lightworker” or “shaman” while putting on a face of positivity all they want. They can pretend to play in the spiritual realms all they want. It is rare for anyone to be able to critically think instead of spouting off new-age gobbledygook or outright dismissing someone because they view them to be “negative” or “angry”. Most of us lead lives that are on repeat– repeating the same loop of thoughts, behaviors, and understandings. And anything outside of that is threatening and the person will recoil or attack, depending on their personality to defend their zombie-like existence.

For the record, I have no issue with any of these people, nor am I angry at them. They simply are who they are and will continue to be that way. I love and appreciate anyone who can critically think and respond thoughtfully to anything that I write (even if they disagree with me… actually especially if they disagree with me. I love engaging in conversation with thoughtful, balanced people). Unfortunately, that is not what happens. Unfortunately, what happens is that I get a bunch of core shamans and new-agers throwing extremely negative thoughtforms at me, unable to recognize that someone who actually does spiritual work can recognize this sort of energy and track it in about three seconds flat. Unable to recognize the irony of the fact that they dislike me or my work because it is not really “light” and their activities and the core of their being is anything but the light mask they put on. I don’t do anything with this energy by the way, other than simply deflect it. It is not worth my time, and generally I can see that these types are mired in illusion and have enough difficulty in their lives, although it is of interest simply as a pattern of how these types operate and will do anything rather than look inside or actually think about anything in their lives.

But the world will always be filled with falsehood, illusions, greed, envy, and surface level understandings.The world is always filled with people who are zombies– simply repeating what is given to them without thought. It is where most people are at, and I have compassion for them. I really do. Most of them are really suffering and will lead rather meaningless lives, constantly on repeat without really going beyond the surface illusions and limitations they have created for themselves. My writing is not aimed for them– it is for the person who actually wants to think on a deeper level. But unfortunately, some of these people become spiritual workers (“shamans”, “shamanic practitioners”) and take on clients. And when something goes wrong, they blame the client. 

It is enough of a pattern that I need to unfortunately speak about it. I wish that soul retrieval were safe, simple, and filled with the white light of love and light that people think it is. But something cannot be powerful and safe at the same time. Any method of powerful healing is going to have effects. Even if you treat soul retrieval as simply a psychological mechanism (which most shamanism actually is these days instead of actually being spiritual, because most people cannot see beyond the mental realms) there is inherent harm that can come up.

By far the most common side-effect of Soul Retrieval is that the practitioner simply doesn’t have any training in trauma and does not give appropriate aftercare. 

They do not know what to do if their “client” freaks out and/or they don’t know enough about trauma to know how to work with it gently and directly through a titration method, rather than an “everybody out of the pool” method where they bring back anything and everything they can get their hands on. In many of these cases the “shaman” will not know what to do, and will tell the person to go see a therapist (which may be excellent advice, by the way). In other cases the “shaman” doesn’t know what they don’t know and will tell them that things are integrating, or even blame the client, deflecting the blame onto them. This is where we get into the unfortunate gobbledygook that is so pervasive of “shamans” giving advice like “just think about love, love conquers all” or “imagine a white light, that will help” to a person who is experiencing the physiological and emotional effects of having a piece back that they were not prepared for, and the “shaman” doesn’t know enough to help them.

I advise anyone working with clients who have trauma to get trauma training. Experiencing trauma has very real physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual effects, and if you do not know anything about them you should not be working with trauma.

Before we go on, I do realize that most spiritual workers make mistakes. It happens. The correct response to making a mistake, or having a client freak out or express concern (even if it is not your fault) is to help them (within reason, of course). Learn how to track your work, and most of all take personal responsibility for your work. Thinking of love or light doesn’t solve anything if your client can’t get out of bed because you brought back too much for them to process, or you brought back something that they do not have the proper tools to process. It is not the clients fault. It is the spiritual practitioners. And they can either close themselves off, telling themselves that it was their clients shadow, or that they weren’t positive enough or thinking about enough love and light… or they can actually learn. Learn how to work with trauma. Learn how to be a better spiritual practitioner. Or stop being a spiritual practitioner if you do not want to learn these things.

The emails I get the most of are from the other two case studies, though. I may be biased because of this, because chances are that there are many of you who have had issues after Soul Retrieval, contacted your spiritual worker, and they helped. These are not the emails I receive. I receive emails from the people who went to “shamans” who are playing in the spiritual realms with no conception of what they are doing, and when the proverbial shit hits the fan they blame the client to save themselves. I get emails from people who realize that what was brought back wasn’t theirs, and the “shaman” lacks the tracking skills and humility to realize that they did something wrong, telling the person that all they need to do is “integrate their shadow” and they will be fine.

So why is this? Why does this happen? Soul Retrieval is a powerful thing. We section off trauma and overwhelming circumstances for a reason. Basically, anything that we were not able to process or were overwhelmed by at a point in our lives (or our ancestors, past lives, etc) we section off so that we can go about our day-to-day functioning. This is what Soul Retrieval works with- the restoration of these fragmented astral pieces, those places that we have sectioned off memories and traumas. 

But currently shamanic work is taught of as being “safe” and is taught as an off-shoot of pop-psychology and self-help mechanisms. People are not really taught anything about the spiritual realms, and when they are they are taught that it is all in their heads. This is so that “shamanism” can be mass marketed to people that have no capability of working or seeing into the spiritual realms. They think it is all psychology, because for them it is. They think it is all safe, because it is all self-created. 

But even if we were to think of everything as being self-created, there are some scary parts of ourselves, parts that could be threatening, angry, violent, self-destructive, primal, and so forth. Even if everything is “inside” of us that doesn’t make it safe. 

Safety is a marketing technique. It is how spiritual teachers can sleep at night teaching 150 students soul retrieval, possibly knowing that 149 of them have no shamanic abilities whatsoever.

I have said this before and I will say it again, it is really easy to get stuck in the illusions, marketing, and sort of surface level pop-psychology and self-help that is so perpetuated in this field. Spiritual work has disintegrated into simply “changing your story” or changing your thoughts as spiritual work. It has changed from actual spiritual work to mental work and creative visualization. It has changed from actual spiritual work to self-help work. 

It has done so because you are never going to sell out workshops, never going to sell your books and go on the bestseller list, never going to be famous, and never going to have a COO or CEO for your shamanic organization if you cater to actual spiritual workers. It just won’t happen.

So myths and illusions are perpetuated. And one of these is that spiritual work is safe. And contrarily, at the same time, that if you notice anything “spiritual” you need to “fear and clear” (my new catch phrase) it through saging (oddly not really a clearing tool, actually a consecration herb) because the “spiritual” is not intended to be here, and if it is noticed, it must be cleared.

And what happens is that we have thousands of practitioners who are just babies in their spiritual practices learning tools that can do harm. Like Soul Retrieval. And because they have been taught and repeat the new-ageisms of everything being “light and love” or that they are entitled to do whatever they want whenever they want simply because they want to be a “shaman” we have thousands of individuals doing ineffective or even harmful spiritual work.

The good aspect of this is that most of these practitioners simply won’t accomplish anything. They don’t have the power or the ability. They will just take their clients money without providing anything other than a decent story for their client. Which may actually be healing.

But there are some practitioners who traverse the mental realms, or even the spiritual realms, that can do real harm. Spiritual work isn’t safe. Mental work isn’t safe. Most practitioners do not learn how to properly discern energies (like spirits), how to properly track, or how to properly work with spiritual energy. They do not know anything about the physiological basis of trauma or proper aftercare.

Most practitioners do not actually believe in what they are doing. They are doing it as a rote exercise they learned over a weekend workshop. They might not actually believe in anything spiritual, or that anything spiritual actually exists. They may believe that everything is an aspect of you, or that everything is simply a psychological mechanism. And if they do believe in the spiritual realms they may be working with energies that are pretending to be something they are not, or more likely are self-creating a bunch of congratulatory spiritual “allies” out of disassociated aspects of themselves that tell them how wonderful they are.

Most practitioners believe these things because they do not have any experience otherwise. They do not have the direct experience of anything spiritual, or anything outside of their own head. And they are unable to critically think, or think for themselves to the point of questioning if they should be discerning spirits, or if they are ready to take on clients, or when a client comes back to them telling them that they feel something is wrong taking a cold, hard look at themselves and taking personal responsibility for what they have done. They just repeat back the new-ageisms and slogans that the shamanic corporations have given them and go on with their day.

To end, it does look like I am castigating an entire group of practitioners. There are excellent spiritual practitioners out there. Ones who are effective, ones that know what they are doing. Spiritual workers with the humility to check their work, to make appropriate referrals if need be, that do divination to ensure that the work they are doing will be well-received by the client, and that have the actual spiritual abilities, power, and presence to do transformational and profound work. One Soul Retrieval with one of these practitioners can be life changing. 

But in a world filled to the brim with self-help pop psychology life-coach type “shamans” they can be hard to find. It seems like for every 10,000 people who tell me they are doing spiritual or shamanic work, there are only 5 or 10 who know what they are doing, or are beyond surface level knowledge and understandings. And it can be even harder to find someone to “fix” or help you if you have gone to a practitioner and had something go wrong. There are a lot of wonderful spiritual workers out there, unfortunately many people have to go through many, many practitioners unable to help (who are unable to admit that they are unable to help typically), who just want to rip you off or have questionable ethics, or who do harmful work without realizing it.

Energetic Cording

When we have any sort of relationship with someone, we form an energetic cord to them. 

Some of these cords, such as to people who we have just met, the checkout person at the supermarket, and others who we have not shared experiences or shared any sort of kinship with, are likely small, thin, and harder to perceive.

Every person we come across, every person that has crossed our path is some seemingly insignificant way we have formed a cord to.

If we have never energetically worked with cords, the number of cords that we could have from these seemingly insignificant and meaningless encounters could number in the hundreds. Or the thousands.

Some of these cords naturally resolve. But others we need to take care of to maintain energetic hygiene.

What is energetic hygiene? It is the goal of being as clear as possible of other peoples’ stuff. Throughout our days, and our lives, we collect a lot of energy that is not ours– emotions, stressors, and cords are some of the most common things to stick to our energetic field (the area immediately surrounding our physical body) as well as inside our physical body.

We like to think of ourselves as concrete, physical creatures but we are simply energy. Condensed energy that is. Our physical bodies are nothing more than energy that has grouped together and condensed to create our physical form. So it is common for other energies– those from our environment, from other sources, and from other people to energetically take up some of our space when it shouldn’t.

Energy hygiene to me means that we have practices and tools to maintain our own physical bodies as solely ours. Tools to realize what energies are within us, surrounding us, or approaching us. Most of us do not have these skills and are dealing with the effects of energy that is not ours impacting us.

How do cords impact us? In insignificant relationships (which we may have hundreds or thousands of cords to) we may simply feel unclear, fatigued, or uncertain. We may be so used to having so many cords that we are used to this state. Most of us have not learned the tools to understand and work with energetic cords, how to discern what energies are impacting us (what is ours and what is not), and what to do about it.

In more significant relationships, where we have developed more significant cords/connections to the person, we may have a variety of symptoms that are more pronounced. Exacerbated fatigue, illness, feeling waves of emotion, suddenly recalling the person whom we are corded to even though our relationship has long passed, not being able to move past a relationship we may have had, or not being able to heal trauma or experiences from a current relationship.

Working with cords is one of the most important aspects of energy work you can do. There is nothing like the sudden clarity that comes from releasing one toxic cord, or hundreds of seemingly insignificant cords.

Working with cords can help you release emotions, past events, past relationships, and come to new understandings about who you are. The release of cords wrapped up in family situations, in friendships, or with lovers/relationships can help you heal significant relationships in your current life. The removal of cords to people of the past can help release hurt and simply move on in a powerful way in your life.

This subject is so important, and is rarely talked about beyond a beginning level. In order to help the most people with this I have developed a course called Basic and Intermediate Cord Cutting and Clearing.

This course will take you through the basics of what a cord is, how to sense them, and how to cut and clear them. In the intermediate section it goes over how to work with cords that remain and how to release them over time, or through understanding the emotions, experiences, lessons, and energies involved in significant cording. Also discussed is the phenomena of “energy vampires” and the basics of how to recognize this phenomena and how to empower yourself so you are not a victim of one.

This work is suggested for really anyone, but especially anyone who is sensitive, who does energy work or spiritual healing, or who interacts with a lot of people on a regular basis– especially people in the helping professions, such as doctors, nurses, lawyers, social workers, retail workers, teachers, and more.

It is available on Amazon kindle here, or you can purchase the course through me here. If you are outside of the U.S. and wish to purchase the course through me, simply contact me so you can purchase it through Paypal.

And, as always, if there is a particularly difficult cord that you are working with and need guidance or help healing, you can contact me to set up an appointment for us to work on it together.

And yes, an Advanced Cording Course is in the works. Stay tuned for more details!

The Dangers of Soul Retrieval Part One

Eloise (fake name, of course) contacted me because she felt something was really wrong spiritually. She had received a “soul retrieval” from a “shaman” six weeks prior, and since then her life had gone rapidly downhill.

She was initially interested in soul retrieval because of a bad breakup four years prior. She had the classic symptoms of someone who had never gotten over that point– still thinking about the relationship after many years, inability to get into a new relationship, and a feeling of a part of herself still being her younger (well four years younger, which matters a lot in your twenties) self.

After she received her “soul retrieval” she felt like something was wrong but reasoned that since it was a spiritual appointment that it wasn’t unusual to feel a bit off. However, over the next few days she realized that something was terribly wrong. Eloise had never been depressed or prone to any type of mental imbalance but she began to feel extremely suicidal. So much so that as a logical person she reached out to friends and family and told them that she was worried about the sudden feelings of wanting to harm herself.

She contacted her “shaman” and the “shaman” (yes, I am using a lot of quotes for a reason) told her that it must be a part of her “shadow” coming out and that it was something that needed to simply integrate, and told her to walk on grass and go out into nature to integrate her “shadow”.

A friend came over and they decided that she should get a psychiatric evaluation to ensure that she was safe. She was admitted to the hospital, spending two days in the psychiatric unit. She was put on medication, given talk therapy, and participated in groups with people that were significantly mentally ill.

After she got out she realized that she was not like the other people that she met in the hospital, and was given my name and email address to contact. I quickly realized that she had an energy attached to her that was not her– it was that of a suicidal young woman. We cleared the former human, but Eloise was left with the traumatic experiences she had endured due to the experience of being admitted to a psychiatric hospital (as well as that fact permanently being on her health records) and was extremely and understandably shaken by the whole ordeal.She also had to deal with the fact that she was now on a psychiatric medication that was somewhat difficult for her to get off of.

Brandy (yes, name changed again) contacted me because she had enough spiritual experience to realize that something was attached to her after a soul retrieval appointment. From just one “soul retrieval” from a “shamanic practitioner” she began experiencing really odd experiences around her home, and feeling physical sensations that she knew were not coming from her in origin.

She contacted me and in tracking the energy it was understood that a trickster energy had noticed that this “shamanic practitioner” did not really know what they were doing but was stirring up a bunch of spiritual energy performing “soul retrievals” and the like, and wanted to influence and entertain themselves through being a part of sessions. The practitioner of course had no idea that this was happening. When Brandy came in for the appointment the trickster quickly realized that it was getting bored and noted that Brandy actually had spiritual abilities and attached to her by appearing as a “soul piece” to the practitioner. It took us three appointments to get her rid of this energy over the course of three weeks. Meantime she had difficulty sleeping and strange physical and mental symptoms.

Michael went in for a soul retrieval because of significant childhood trauma. He was molested as a small child, and felt like his life went off track since that point. He had difficulty having intimate relationships and kept those around him at bay. He had a soul retrieval prior with a spiritual worker that helped him release trauma from a situation he had had as a teenager, and he was excited to continue the work. He had moved since the first soul retrieval, which was a few years prior, and so he looked up someone in his town who performed the service.

When he went in the new “shaman” said they brought back five pieces, all of difficult childhood traumas. Michael was excited to hear this, but when he went home he began to feel a well of rage come up in him. He began punching the walls in his apartment, fracturing a finger. He had the urge to flee or burn down his apartment, but at the same time he felt intense grief pour out of him to the extent that he could not move.

He spent the next three weeks in bed in a state of despair. He had memories of his childhood come up that he had not remembered, and could not cope with. He began drinking heavily and watching hours upon hours of television. Over the next three months he lost his job and his days were mainly him with a bottle and his television.

Six months later he began to have flashes of realization that what had happened was a direct result of the soul retrieval that he had from the “shaman”. Although he was still drinking and unemployed, he found me online and we set up a series of appointments to work through the issues that had been created by the “shaman” doing the retrieval.

He is now in AA and is learning meditation to gather the tools he needs to work through some of the trauma he has experienced.

In this case, the “shaman” was technically someone who was spiritually capable (a distinct difference from the first two examples). But because the spiritual worker had little experience with trauma, they were unable to help Michael because they brought back issues that he was not ready to deal with, which obviously had disastrous effects.

In Part One, we have gone over case studies of some of the people I have worked with who have suffered as a result of “shamans” performing “soul retrieval”.

In Part Two I will discuss how frequently and unfortunately I get contacted by people like this, how/why this happens, and how to tell if you have had a soul retrieval that needs to be corrected… or worked with by a more competent practitioner.

I will also discuss my thoughts on why core “shamanism” is presented as safe in terms of soul retrieval, why too many people are playing in realms that they do not understand and feel confident in doing so, why many “shamanic practitioners” grasp onto the idea that there is nothing outside the self (and everything else is lumped in with the “shadow”… which doesn’t mean what they think it does), and the harm that is created by many practitioners working with deep traumas and emotions without any sort of trauma or body-based training. I also will talk a bit about one of my specialties, which is corrective work– or essentially healing the effects of the work of other “shamans” and spiritual practitioners.

Spiritual Bathing: The Basics

One of the tools that I recommend most to my patients who are energetically sensitive in any way is spiritual bathing. Although it sound a bit trite to say (and to read I am sure) the practice of spiritual bathing has completely turned my life around. I used to be consistently exhausted, overwhelmed, and felt ill consistently (with illness that nobody could figure out) due to the amount of spiritual stimulus that was around me. This was despite knowing how to ward (protect myself and my home), how to clear my space, having proper boundaries, claiming my body, working through my traumas and illusions, and doing all of the multitude of practices that have helped me to become whole, given me power, and facilitated understanding on a rather deep level.

Despite all of this I still was overwhelmed because of my sensitivities. I could ward, banish, clear, cultivate my light and compassion and do everything “right” and because I was so sensitive I still was overloaded from seeing too much, from sensing too much, and from feeling the effects of the amount of energies attracted to me and just simply that surround me.

Spiritual bathing comes from pretty much every culture on the planet. It is mentioned in the Bible, it is mentioned in most forms of folk practices and magic from Greece to China to Africa. At its simplest, spiritual bathing is just as it sounds. It is bathing in herbs and minerals for a specific purpose. 

Spiritual bathing can be done for anything. It can be done to clear energy from you (or from inside of you), release emotions/trauma, clear blocks, bring in new opportunities and money, engender romance, for fertility, for protection, sealing of the energies around you, and simply for relaxation.

The prescribing of specific herbs and minerals for spiritual bathing should be done by an experienced root worker, root doctor, or folk practitioner who understands the spiritual properties of specific herbs and minerals and who can come up with an exact prescription of what ingredients you should use to help your exact situation.  (Yes, I do this, and it is often part of the “homework” I give people after a spiritual healing session)

That being said, there are basic ingredients that we can all utilize that are wonderful for most of us to gain the benefits of spiritual bathing. I have included a few of my basic, favorite baths below, and then will tell you how spiritual bathing is done.

Clearing and Releasing Baths
My favorite “basic” bath is a salt bath. This can be as simple as getting dead sea salts or Epsom salts, putting a cup in the bathtub, and soaking in it, with the intent that anything that is not yours and/or anything that wants to clear, can do so.

One of my other favorite baths is with coconut. Ideally you would get a whole coconut, drill three holes in it, put the coconut water in the tub and again intend that anything that is not yours will clear. In some Caribbean traditions you would then fill up the coconut with the dirty bath water (it doesn’t have to be a lot) and release the coconut into the sea or ocean, or at the very least crack it by some sort of body of water to signify that the old energy is leaving and that new energy can come in.

Nurturing and Romance
Goats Milk 
is both mildly clearing as well as deeply nurturing, and is a part of many prescriptions for fertility. The addition of rose petals can nurture as well as allow for a woman to feel romantic about her male partner, or lavender is classically used for women who wish to feel romantic about their female partner.

Protection
Any of the clearing herbs can certainly help with protection, but the addition of rosemary will help women to feel protected, especially women who have children. Rue is an herb that is specific to clear negativity and to protect you from negative energy sent from others.

Clearing Jinxes and Crossed Conditions, Starting Anew
Some spiritual situations are incredibly complex or more serious than simply taking a salt bath. Herbs like hyssop combined with agrimony and rue are an excellent place to start. This is a simple prescription for those who have had any sort of magic done against them, or who are spiritual workers to ensure any negativity or backlash has been cleared. Parsley is often used to banish or clear more difficult spirits or energies from us (temporarily, but effectively).

For complex situations (yes I am repeating myself) an individualized prescription is often necessary. Spiritual bathing can be a simple way to work with a variety of situations– from simply creating a fresh start for ourselves, for general release and clearing or “blockbusting”… to specific or difficult situations such as spirit release, undoing the work of others against us (or our subconscious work against ourselves)… to engendering romance, fertility, protection, and better finances and general flow in our lives.

How Spiritual Bathing works
You will simply gather your ingredients. For loose herbs (either dried or fresh) so you do not mess up your bathtub you have two choices:

  1. Put the herb in a large bowl, bring up some water to a boil, and cover the herb with the water and let it steep. When it gets dark/infused, strain it, bring the water portion up to the bath and pour it in with the rest of the water.
  2. Get an empty teabag or cheesecloth and put the herb in. Then put it in the hot water of your bath and let it steep a bit.

For salt you can simply put a cup or two into the bottom of your bathtub. For the coconut you would drill the holes before getting in the bathtub, and simply bring it in the bath with you.

There is no set amount for ingredients, but like a loose leaf tea, you want there to be enough of an impact that the water changes color, that you can smell the herbs, and that you can sense their presence while bathing. There is no set amount for ingredients– meaning that you may choose to take a salt and rosemary bath, or a goats milk and rose petal bath. Or even a salt, hyssop, agrimony, parsley, and rue bath to hedge your bets. With combining ingredients you want to ensure that you are not canceling one out, or adding too many purposes to one bath. You would not want to take a clearing bath and a romance bath at the same time, for example. You would take the clearing bath and then on a separate day take the romance bath. Unless you know what you are doing, simple is often best. A simple salt bath can make a world of difference to someone who is sensitive if done regularly.

How often do I do this?
I suggest to most people that they do a spiritual cleansing bath once a week. Again this can be a simple salt bath.

What do I do?
After gathering the ingredients and putting them in the bath, you will get in the bath. You will state your intent (this bath will clear any negativity, any energy that is not mine, allow for me to move forward in my life, clear any energies/entities, protect me, etc). You may choose to call in a spiritual guide before getting into the bath or utilize source energy/reiki to bring extra energy and intent into the bath as well. Often this is really not necessary, however.

You will then get into the bath and basically take a bath. There are many different cultures who do spiritual bathing and some of them utilize cups (for example) to take the bath water and pour it over the head, letting it run down to the feet.

Many of the directions for spiritual bathing were created in cultures before there were bathtubs, or when they were quite expensive, so I suggest to most people to simply immerse themselves in the bath after stating their intent and allow for the bathwater to be poured or streamed over you head to feet for clearing purposes… and feet to head for anything you want to gain (protection, romance, money, for example). This can be as simple as cupping your hands and pouring a bit over the top of your head and then gently sweeping your body in a downward fashion until you reach your feet.

You then get out of the bath. Like I said, a simple salt bath is often quite effective (just pouring in some salt, sitting in it and saying your intent of clearing, and then getting out). I find that the ritualization of spiritual bathing (or the “classical” rootwork methods) to be quite effective. These are not absolutely necessary, but if you are dealing with a lot of negativity or struggle or you think someone is working against you are something is attached to you, I do suggest doing the ritual in full.

The full ritual:
In rootwork, the bath is often taken at or just before dawn. A portion of the bathwater is saved. You would get out of the tub and air dry. Some people like to step out of the tub between two white candles that are lit to signify that a fresh start is being made. I do find that it is a lovely way to do things.

You would then get dressed, put any clothes you were wearing in the laundry, and bring the portion of the bathwater that you saved to a crossroads (basically where any road intersects with another road). You would then dump out the bathwater you saved over your left shoulder and go back home, taking a different route than you took on the way there. You would not look back at the crossroad that you dumped the water at.

The modified ritual:
Most people who are not in severe situations, or who are willing to make spiritual bathing a routine (as in once or twice a week, or once a week and whenever they are feeling “off”) that they will stick to will do a modified ritual.

You would bathe the same way, collect a portion of the bathwater, step out between the two candles, and then drop the bath water off at a crossroads, in a brook or stream, or ask permission of a tree or other natural object to mulch or dispose of the water for you.

The modified ritual cuts out the air drying, the timing portion, and the ritual of the crossroads (at least to the extent of not needing to do it at dawn, pouring over left shoulder, etc).

A simple bath:
Like I mentioned, most people could really just use a salt bath. Just put the salt in the tub, get in and state your intent, and soak for 10-20 minutes or so.

This cuts out need for downward motion for clearing, collecting bath water, timing, ritual aspects, etc. But even doing a simple salt bath once a week, if done regularly, can clear a lot of energy.

It sounds so simple, but often the simple things are the most effective… we just really want things to be complex because our minds think they will work better. When I began spiritual bathing I didn’t know much about the spiritual properties of herbs and did a salt bath (simple version) once a night for seven nights. My health immediately improved, my fatigue lessened, my energetic space became clearer and clearer. I do realize as a clinician that salt baths also contain a lot of magnesium and minerals that are highly effective, but the effect of not having so much energetic “junk” around me even with the simple bath was astonishing to me. The gradual addition of herbs to help clear, protect, banish, or break through negativity, to nourish, or to bring certain elements to my life as well as the ritualized, classical aspects of it has had an astronomical impact on my life and on my practice.

If you are looking to begin a practice of spiritual bathing, you can contact me for a reading or appointment. Like I mentioned, these are the very, very basics of doing these practices, and with the right prescription the results can be really beautiful. But the practices mentioned are an excellent start at integrating spiritual bathing into your life.

 

Ancestral Healing– Understanding the Gifts of our Ancestors

Much of healing work is focused on clearing. This is especially true with spiritual work, in which the focus always seems to be on getting rid of things– trauma, patterns, belief systems, and more.

This is especially true with ancestral healing. Most people who are moderately or seriously into spiritual work or have done a lot of personal cultivation such as meditation understand that they have a lot of emotions and patterns that are not theirs. Beyond family and past life patterns, ancestral patterns are some of the first traumas and large emotions that come up to clear that are not “ours”.

Clearing and healing this stuff is often a really big deal. Life-long patterns of depression, feelings of stagnancy and inability to move forward, financial issues (some of them), and deeply held emotions that are not “ours” – meaning not from our lifetime– are rarely understood or broached in our most external, consensual reality (the one we all agree upon, the one in which modern psychotherapy is in as well). It is just now being “discovered” by many “fringe” science groups that the emotions and experiences of our ancestors can have an effect on us.

Spiritual healers have, of course, known this for many years. The ancestral layer… the one that contains the traumas, the experiences, and the beliefs of our ancestors… is in fact passed down to us. We are rarely conscious of it, and are unable to realize why we are so angry, or grief-stricken, or depressed, or even question why we cannot progress beyond a certain point in our lives, when we have no cause (or have worked through the causes) for the trauma, the emotions, and experiences of our own lifetime.

So clearing of this level is profound, and necessary. This level was extremely profound for me personally, as has all ancestral work been when I began to explore it and work with it slowly and over an extended period of time.

But our ancestors also have gifts for us. This is rarely looked at because there is so much focus and “discovery” about how trauma is passed down that affects us. The gifts and abilities and understandings and wisdom of our ancestors flow through our veins. They are always present with us. We only need to learn how to access them.

When we learn how to work with our ancestors our world transforms. While many of the spiritual guides, deities, and spirits that we encounter may care about us, and our lives, it is often in a sort of expanded, focused on the spirit sort of way. Ancestors deeply care about our lives, about us, and can help us through our external reality in a profound manner. Through the financial worries, the stress of our jobs, our household, and our lives as a whole. They can help us, guide us, and teach us in a profound yet often practical way.

This can help anyone have more ease in their lives. We can also discover what gifts, or traits, flow through our bloodlines from our ancestors. When we have the ability to focus on these gifts we are able to become stronger, and more who we truly and vitally are.

Many people who contact me also have spiritual gifts that run through their ancestry. Most highly sensitive people, or people truly called to spiritual work, have it happen because it is a sort of genetic trait– meaning that other people in your family were sensitive or psychic, or were spiritual workers. Ideally this would be known and cultivated in the family. In most cases it is not, as we have culturally gone through long periods of violence towards anyone who has spiritual gifts, and it simply was likely not safe to work with them or even talk about them in an open manner.

So while ancestral healing and clearing is profound and necessary, so is discovering how to communicate with your ancestors, how to find out and claim the gifts of your ancestry. 

Resolving any large pattern (such as an ancestral pattern) that is creating a lot of chaos and strong emotions can be simple yet profound to do. It creates the ability to let go of things that are not yours and to move forward in your life in a profound manner. It is deeply healing, and often necessary for anyone who is “waking up”. It is a huge layer with often many patterns that have been handed down.

But claiming your ancestral gifts and learning how to communicate with your ancestors is a simple process that is about gaining. Gaining understanding, gaining clarity, gaining wisdom. All you need to do is learn how to communicate properly and safely.

I am able to help people clear their ancestral traumas, patterns, and emotions, as well as learn how to communicate with their ancestors in a simple way, and to learn about the unique gifts and/or traits of their ancestry. If you are interested in an ancestral healing session, or learning how to communicate and work with the gifts of your ancestry, you can contact me. I do sessions worldwide via Skype/phone.

You can also read more about working with your ancestry here and here.