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Direct Experience, Power, and Belief

I have been thinking a bit about the power of direct experience lately.

What I have been considering about it is that if we do not have direct experience of something, if it does not touch our lives in some capacity, that we can shut our eyes to it.

We can believe something to be false simply because we have never experienced it.

And not only that, we close ourselves down to any greater understanding or realization… or even the direct experience and acknowledgement of something because we are so attached to beliefs that we have created out of past experiences.

I was thinking about this oddly the other day because I moved to a new town recently and was looking for restaurant recommendations. One of the most highly rated restaurants in my town is a sushi place. I began thinking back to a period of time about ten years ago when I would get cravings for sushi and would go to the local sushi place. This sushi was fantastic to me, and I would crave it weekly.

This was until I went to a Morimoto sushi place in Florida. What I experienced there was mind-blowing, it was a sensory initiatory experience. After this experience, I could not go back to eating the old sushi. It not only just didn’t live up to the experience that I had (which is understandable, as it was infinitely more expensive), but it now tasted bad to me. I completely lost my weekly craving for sushi because I had the direct experience of what sushi could be, what it was intended to be, and others now seemed shallow, pale, and lacking of vitality.

In many ways our spiritual experiences are much like this.

As I was thinking about this sort of initiatory experience of “real” sushi, I thought about the parallel of how I used to take courses of a spiritual and shamanic nature that at the time I believed were offering me initiatory experiences and some form of power and realization. They were, at the time, even though I did have a sense that something was “off” about them, and that my experiences were quite different from what most others reported when sharing.

And then I remember being invited to a ceremony where participants were “ridden” by spirits. This came some time later, but much like the sushi restaurant, the experience of palpable power, authenticity, and integrity that came through from this experience made me look at my former experiences as if I were a five year old girl playing dress-up with princess clothes. I tried to go back to a course and realized that it was a mistake– the sort of veil had been cleared and I saw that the power that I now knew was a reality wasn’t to be found there.


I have thought about this pattern a bit because it is our tendency to believe we are further along on our spiritual journeys than we are.

I also thought about this as there is a young man (probably about 25 I would guess) who is espousing his “wisdom” about shamanism through quoting books in some of the circles I sometimes enter. We all went through (or most of us did) a phase in our twenties where we believed that we knew everything. If you look at Facebook, it is filled with 25 year old gurus who lack the inner questioning to really ask if their insights and wisdom is really all they believe it to be, or if it is really the right time in their evolution to be considered in the “teacher” role.

And my purpose is not to make fun here, as this is a common initiatory phase– it is a question if someone can go beyond this phase of “knowing everything” to realize that they know very little, no matter how versed they are on a topic– that will allow for the person to pass through the other end of this phase or remain sort of in this phase that is fairly insufferable to pretty much anyone that has gone beyond the book-quoting phase and into actual, direct experience of something like shamanism…

I remember this quote from Ida Rolf (the innovator of Rolfing) where she said basically that she wishes that people who had less than five years of full time experience with Rolfing wouldn’t call themselves Rolfers… as what they were doing was not quite Rolfing yet. The same is very true of many spiritual practitioners that I see out there– they simply don’t have the experience of a direct nature, have not cultivated the power, to be very good or effective at the work. Whether people will wake up to this and begin cultivating power and spiritual relationships to become effective (and I hope they do, as our culture very much needs people willing to dedicate themselves to this work), and have the direct experiences beyond the teachings of their own minds and books to do this type of work for others is always a hard sell, as the reality of this work is that you need to dedicate large portions of your life to it to the exclusion of pretty much anything else, at least while you are training.


But this happens all the time, no matter what age we are at. What we have experienced, what we believe to be true, can be an end point for us.

I was recently asked in an interview about the “end point” of awakening. I said that the end point is an illusion, there is no completion– the process of awakening is really moving beyond the illusion of some sort of competitive spirituality in which someone “wins” or is ahead of others, and realizes that awakening is about always questioning your reality, your beliefs, and your experiences to see if you can open, release, or expand from them.

It is about the willingness to look at your beliefs, your reality, and your inner nature and seeing what needs to be healed. What is false. And the willingness to let go of beliefs, of our understandings of ourselves and the world (as we have defined “Truth”) is rare. And it is admirable, for those willing to venture there.

Our minds love to tell us that we are much further than we are spiritually. One of the reasons I stopped offering non-healing appointments (I used to do Q & A type appointments for people looking for guidance about psychic abilities and kundalini and spiritual awakening topics) is that 9 out of 10 people I talked to were utterly convinced that they were much further than they were on their spiritual path. To the point that they wanted to spend most of the appointment telling me how they were the most psychic, kundalini shaman person out there. While I recognize the power of sharing, most of the people who had this mythology created about themselves were not interested in learning skills to support it, or to move beyond their own stories about themselves to realize that there were (and are) many others either exactly where they are, or further/more psychic etc. than they are.

Again, I am pointing this out simply to state that this is yet another phase that people pass through, and it is their choice to realistically look at where they are. There was a point in my life that I thought that I was much further than I was, and it was because I was simply much further than I had been.

It is always a choice to continually move forward in our paths, and to realize greater truths about ourselves.

But this phase allows for people to believe that they are at the end of their paths, some great illusory end point, with some great Truth in mind… or that they have constructed some huge narrative about how psychic or sensitive or kundalini awakened or what a shaman they are/were.


I thought of this recently as a woman who was in a great deal of distress contacted me stating that she felt out of control, that the Universe had no control, that she felt like a pawn in things. This was causing for her to be in constant agony.

I tried communicating to her that the phase she was in (a phase in which we realize that we don’t have as much control over things as we would believe ourselves to… our feelings of control, spiritual or otherwise, are in place often to make us feel in control and to feel safe) was simply a phase, and that she could move on from it. I recommended she contact a therapist because we construct beliefs out of trauma, and she was clearly in a state of crisis that could find support and healing for whatever abuse or trauma that was creating those illusions for her.

But she didn’t believe me. She thought that she was at some end point of her path. She lacked the direct experience to understand that what she was going through was a phase, actually a fairly beginning phase (I say that in no derision, but simply to state that contrary to her thinking that only she realized such knowledge, that many, many people in past, present, and future, will come to this realization… and that many people are able to see their way out of it).

Although I do my best with compassion with all people, the pattern of people wanting to create some large spiritual mythology or circumstance to explain away their inner pain and not focus on it can be a bit tiring sometimes. Some of the people who contact me really just have felt some energy in their bodies and wanted to believe it was kundalini, but some people who were authentically psychic were convinced that their self-created practices and beliefs that were causing immeasurable harm to themselves, were not ready to look at such things, or to consider that they could receive proper training.

I think about a woman I worked with who taught herself psychopomp. By the time she came to me she was having seizures, blackouts, and was constantly fatigued. There was actually poltergeist-like activity around her. She wanted to believe that she was a great healer, and was unwilling to look at the fact that her health issues, energy levels (all allopathic/medical info had been ruled out, by the way) and things being thrown around her house was because she was engaged in practices that were quite harmful, and that due to her lack of experience and awareness, she was compromising her health and safety in a rather severe fashion.


In a different vein, I have often thought about how mainstream shamanism (neo-shamanism, “core”) has become very based in psychology. So based in psychology that people do not even consider that one of the main tenents of shamanism is an animist perspective– basically an understanding that the Universe is vitally alive and filled with beings and spirits that can be worked with and communicated with. In fact, a Shaman without any spirits, or who didn’t believe in spirits, is a ridiculous thought.

But here is the thing– if you have never experienced anything other than your own consciousness creating deities and power animals and such, you will not know that non-psychological energies and beings act and interact quite differently. That they have power, power that is palpable.

And that spiritual relationships always take time. They take effort. I see people saying that everyone from Satan to Jesus to Archangel Michael suddenly shows up, fully formed, willing to bestow on them the secrets of the Universe.

For contrast, I will say that I have worked with a being that first began appearing to me 15 years ago that finally told me its name a few years ago. I had to prove my worth and go through many initiations. This happens when energies have power and wisdom– you have to prove yourself. The more power something has, the more valuable the relationship, the more work you need to put into it.

I thought about this a fair amount when considering things that are of a “dark” or “evil” nature. I know that darker energies exist, because I have direct experience of them. I know they exist because they have been evident to me for a long time, as well as to other people who are either called to spiritual work (have the actual capacity to interact with the spiritual realms), or people who were unlucky enough to move to a house or land that contains energies that are dark or evil in nature.

When we have not had experiences that directly teach us that there is darkness and evil out there, we are free to close our eyes, to believe that they don’t exist. In fact, this is a preferable state. Realizing that there are energies out there that are chaotic, or destructive, or dark… and that unlike new-agers would state, they will not “look in their heart” or find Jesus or understand their light nature– they need to be banished or exorcised or negotiated with… is a realization that many would not wish to understand, and will close themselves off to before they reach any sort of initiatory state that would teach them that such energies exist.

This sentiment also crosses over to “curses”, which if you have experience with, do not go away if you just shut your eyes and tell them to go away.

The difficulty with this understanding, or any sort of spiritual understanding or magical happening or anything that really requires an initiation and direct experience, is that we often have a really need-based reality. We have a lot of fear about the spirit world, about spirits, and about proceeding forward on our path to further realization.

Because magic and spirits and so forth are real, and if we have direct experience of them, we realize that we cannot hold our breath until they go away and we are not as powerful and in control as we believe.

I will say about patterns like “demons” and “dark spirits” that most people who are sensing them are not sensing anything that dark. They are sensing former humans and nothing demonic. Or, they are creating a demon out of subconscious trauma and fracturing, because focusing on that outer force is a lot easier than looking inward towards the trauma that created such “dark energies”.

However, even if 39 out of 40 people who contact me fit into the above categories, that 1 out of 40 person is experiencing a curse. Or a haunting or spiritual happening of some sort. And they need spiritual help– not psychological (or they may need that too, as experiencing something like a curse can be a really rude awakening, especially if you are not interested in anything spiritual and a neighbor or ex-boyfriend or something curses you and you find something random on your lawn).

And those people frequently have to go through a lot of people and bad advice and lecturing about how they must have wanted the experience from people who have never had direct experience of these sorts of energies.


This turned into a bit of an unwieldy piece, by my point here is that we are never at the end. Whatever we know can be released for greater truth, greater understanding. Most of us choose to remain stuck in the known. When we know what to expect, our lives stay the same. We are used to them. We feel safe and in control, at least to a certain extent.

If we are not willing to realize that what we think is “true” in the world formulates our reality, we never move beyond our current truth. In my journey I have experienced and seen many things that would be considered “impossible” and it is by realizing that whatever Truth I currently believe, there is someone out there who has experienced a greater Truth, and that there is greater Truth out there.

Realizing that even if we fully immerse ourselves in pretty much any topic out there (spiritual or not) and throughout the course of a single lifetime we will only understand or embody a fraction of it is a hard realization to move forward with. But if we are interested in understanding greater realities, if we are interested in our spiritual evolution and not just being stagnated in our current thoughts, or realities we were given by our teachers and outer culture, we will constantly look at our lives as operating under illusions that we can move beyond.

The Importance of Grounding

There is a lot of resistance to grounding, and to grounding work.

Partially this is because we live in a society that is aspirational, and the idea of “opening the third eye” or of having transcendental spiritual experiences sounds more appealing to us. The idea of “higher” energies, and the acquisition or experience of those energies can be strikingly similar to an addict looking for their next fix.

But mainly we are resistant to grounding because if we are a part of the Earth we are a part of our bodies.

And if we are embodied, we are a part of this world.


The more fully we embody, we not only come into our physical form but also our lives, our sexuality, our senses, our darkness, our light… and everything in between.

The thought of truly living is often terrifying (subconsciously, of course). What if we were to truly embody our days, our lives? To totally and vitally feel and sense and not castigate any part of ourselves? This is what grounding, true grounding, can do for us.

It can offer us stability, harmony, and an integration of our spirit-mind-emotions into our physical form. It can offer us a center to gravitate from.

Most people I run across, or work with, are disassociated in small or large ways from their bodies. It is funny, I am not a naturally athletic person, although I did sports when I was younger. I was always in my head (mental energy, which you can read about in this last blog) or really far away from my body (there is a reason that I am good at the work that I do) and so it took me years (decades, really) to scratch and claw my way back into my body… to work with the patterns and sensitivities that I had to not only be embodied but to be alive, a part of this world… and to feel gratitude for my physical body and what it can accomplish.

It took me even longer to become grounded. To not consider the spiritual “up there”, and to fully integrate my experiences through my physical body.

It makes such an enormous difference if we are grounded and embodied spiritually on our spiritual path.

That may seem like an innocuous or simple statement, but many forms of spirituality are escapist. They allow for the person to escape their lives, their realities, for a weekend or more.

Even some forms of spiritual practice that I really respect in a lot of ways (like Tonglen) suggest that if we see something horrible in the world, we should work it out internally. That there is no action required in the external world, no usage necessary of our physical bodies.

And while I fully support that sentiment (I am all for inner work), I have found that action in the physical world is necessary. That we can not only heal others by healing ourselves, but that we can heal others by, you know, actually physically helping others.

I see so many people wrapped up in themselves. Mainstream spirituality has put the focus on the “I”. Real spiritual awakening always brings the focus outward– to the realization that we are not the center of the Universe. We move beyond believing ourselves to be the center of the universe and embrace our insignificance (in a healthy, authentic way) and have the capacity to look outer.

Authentic spiritual awakening makes us less self-involved, basically.


I have written a bit about this before, but one of the biggest difficulties that occurs if someone is not embodied and if they are not grounded is that they are all in their heads. They cycle and create illusions that have no anchor in the physical world. The more imbalanced this is, the more the person will be considered “mentally unwell” and their notions and realizations are dangerous, or at the very least, creating immense difficulty for the person who created them.

They may hang on to illusions that have no basis in anything beyond the mind, and the more imbalanced we are, the less we are likely to have the capacity to recognize that we can move beyond our own illusory thoughts.

Sometimes this is a way so the person does not have to look inward. If we focus on “black magic”, or on “past lives” or on the fact that we believe ourselves to be empathic, an ET, a shaman, or whatever else (even if this is true) we can fixate on the outer instead of the inner. 

And if we focus on the outer, the titles, anything but our own timeline, it can be a convenient way to not look at our own childhood, our own experiences of this world.

Our own experiences of this world always (99 percent of the time) need to be worked with first. Otherwise our other experiences and titles are covered by trauma and experiences that are creating blockages and illusions.

By the way, I very much work with past lives and ancestral histories, as well as external energies (attachments and so forth). But these energies I always compare to a snowball: although someone originated them who is “not you”… they started that snowball rolling down the hill… as it passes down again and again it gains more snow. And when it gets to you, you add your own experiences and traumas to that snowball (add more “snow”).

To fully heal any past life or ancestral energy it must be cleared through you. Present day you. Present day you is living that energy, that pattern, and without understanding how an energy lives within you, it can only be healed to a certain extent. This is what most healing work that focuses on past lives and ancestral energies miss, and it is unfortunate they do so.


Having an active practice to ground and center is an essential building block that is missed in spiritual practice.

Without it, the person can only go so far. Without it, the person may not be able to separate illusion and fantasy from reality. Without it, the person is likely creating entire scenarios that may not present to any authentic spiritual worker because they are mental, not spiritual, patterns. Without it, the person is likely to be unbalanced and dislike their lives, sitting on top of a bunch of unprocessed pain that never gets healed.

If someone is willing to ground, spirituality can become embodied. It can become a part of daily life. Gone are the “highs” of the workshops and the weekends of spiritual training and so forth. What happens is that spirituality, and spiritual flows, become a part of your world.

You become a part of things. A part of your body. A part of the world.

A part of the whole spectrum of spiritual energies– from high to low, in between and not, from the liminal spaces to the grocery store.

You feel the flow of the Earth, of the Heavens, and of everything in between flow through you. This state of flow cannot happen if you are not open and exchanging energy with the Earth.

And all of those reasons why you are out of your body, why you dislike the world, why you do not wish to be a part of it, why you may consider that the world is out to “get you”, start to disappear. The fatigue, the lack of connection, and the instabilities start to release when you ground.

Because grounding connects us to others. It connects us to a resource of energy that can allow for us to feel vitally alive.

This is not to say that life still doesn’t happen, but by being grounded you can feel support, energetically and otherwise. You can realize that others are out there who have suffered like you currently suffer. You are more open to friends and others who can assist you. You are more open to energies that can assist you.

Daily life also has more flow to it if you are grounded. If we are disassociated, we only have only so much energy invested in our daily lives. Picture going from a 10 percent investment, that 10 percent of your energy that is really in your body right now and doing whatever work and spiritual pursuits and relationships and so forth… and now picture that going to even 60 percent.

Grounding provides vitality. It provides stability. It provides the type of anchoring to get us through difficult times.

Not only that, it allows for our spirituality to be balanced. Gone are the “ascension” and “white lighter” ideas, the sort of illusory spirituality that focuses on escapism and vacation-like spirituality mentalities and looking for the next spiritual “fix”… the ideas about the individual being special because there is still the void inside, many voids inside, that need to be filled by embodiment and healing of trauma.

We no longer need to feel special if we are full… if we are connected and filled with our own energy. The desire and illusions created to make someone feel “special” show how much power loss we individually have (another topic, I will get into at a later date, but needless to say that if we are connected and centered and healed we no longer need aspirational sort of “be your own shaman” “you are the power” sort of stuff… because we are in our power, and know it).

What happens when we are grounded is that we can begin to really filter out what is Truth and what is not. What we may be creating mentally to take us away from our lives and our bodies, and what is authentically there to be processed and worked with and healed in our bodies.

When we are grounded we can make incredible steps forward in our lives. We become more balanced, less traumatized, and “wake up” to the realization that we can inhabit our lives and our bodies.

I have worked with countless people who have started grounding (often with a lot of resistance) and when they finally do it for a few weeks they always report back that their world is changing. They become less scattered, more logical, and overall happier. Grounding is, of course, not a panacea for everything, but being in the body and actually connecting with the Earth can make us more vitally alive. It can take us from just making it through, and not really living our lives except in loops and repeated motions to get through, to really feeling alive and energized in our bodies and in our lives.

I have an extended grounding meditation in my first book, The Spiritual Awakening Guide, that I really love. It takes you through both beginning and advanced grounding, going through all the layers of the Earth and learning to cycle energy properly through your body (from “heaven” to “earth”), which is really the key to having a lot of flow in your life.

But I will share a simplified grounding exercise that I also love to get you started. By doing this even for five minutes a day for a month you will feel a difference:

  • Sit on a chair with your back straight (no slouching). It often helps to sit at the tip of the chair, but not so much you are falling off the chair seat
  • Feel your feet connect to the floor
  • Now, feel for your tailbone– the point part of your sacrum
  • Picture a direct line going from the bottoms of your feet (if you wish to be specific, the acupuncture point Kidney 1, or where when you scrunch your feet up a natural divit develops sort of midway in the sole of the foot)
  • Now, from the tip of your sacrum picture a third line going down into the Earth
  • If you do this right,  you should see and/or sense a triangle forming from these three lines when they go into the Earth.
  • In time you should not only be able to sense this triangle, but feel energy flowing through your legs and pelvic area
  • Gradually this triangle will become a part of you and take less effort to feel or sense, but will have a greater impact.

After doing this exercise for a while (individual results may vary, for someone who is really ungrounded it may take longer), there will be a significant difference in your entire energetic field. When we are grounded we naturally become more centered, less anxious, more open, and have more energy. Some people like to ground in nature at first, as feeling natural elements can allow for grounding to happen easier, but anywhere that you can do this exercise regularly (once a day, even for five minutes) will help. Our bodies learn over time, and if we are willing to put in a bit of work, we can be more grounded, and our lives will shift into more of a state of balance and health.

Embodied Spirituality

I do all of my spiritual work through the physical body… as well as include the emotions, thoughts, and beliefs contributing to the imbalance (or focus of the session) in the session.

There are a lot of reasons I started doing this. The first is that I have an extensive bodywork background (massage license, craniosacral therapy, zero balancing, thai bodywork…and more, but you get my point here) as well as energy work/spiritual/acupuncture background, which led me to really grasp that the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual were not just these separate realms that influenced one another but that they are both a continuum (from physical to spiritual) as well as create one another continually.

This means that our spiritual reality creates our physical body… and our emotional, mental, and physical bodies continually influence on another. If we are truly balanced, it means that we are balanced physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. If one of those is out of balance, they all are due to their influencing nature.

However, there are a lot of difficulties that arise in the modern world in terms of maintaining or creating this balance.

If we picture the spiritual “body” as the outermost body (and also the innermost at the same time) what is inside of it is the mental, then the emotional, then the etheric (yes, I am influenced by Theosophy, and this is the model that fits inside my head well and rings the greatest bell of “truth” for me), and then the physical. If one of those areas is “clogged” that means that the spiritual is blocked and cannot filter through to influence the physical body (or cannot do so as much).

And as a culture we are all in our heads. Believe it or not, we are thinkers.

I work with a lot of people who have spent thousands of dollars on workshops and retreats and gurus, and the spiritual energy surrounding them has no way in. It is never integrated, because it never passed through the mental or emotional layers to become an actualized aspect of the person and their daily lives.

When I was a kid I used to draw quite a lot (I paint nowadays) and remember drawing people as these tiny stick figures with these huge heads with swirls around them. This is how I saw people, and how I still see them.

We live in our heads.

We also don’t connect to the Earth.

Part of this is entirely natural, by the way. We live in houses with internet and cats and we naturally will lose the grounding and sort of natural relationship that we once had with the Earth.

A lot of us also have very mixed feelings about being here, being in our physical bodies, and being on Earth in general. This is often a spiritual pattern, by the way…

A lot of us also utilize drugs, sex, spirituality, tv (etc.) to become as numb and disembodied as possible, to quiet those mental energies.

And even more of us have experienced trauma that has caused for us to curl up, leave, or fear our physical body.

My point here (and yes, you may fit in more than one category above) is that most of our energy, if we were to put the four “bodies” (physical-emotional-mental-spiritual; I am including the etheric with the physical) on a certain percentage based scale based on how much energy we have invested in each one, for most of the population would be somewhere around 90-99 percent. Yes, I made that up, but think about it for a bit.

And that mental energy clogs us up. And our mental “body” having so much energy means that our physical and emotional bodies are not properly energetically nourished (because energy flows from the spiritual through the mental and emotional to the physical, at least how I perceive it) because it is massively blocked by thoughts.

Also what happens if we start to get really clogged and fixated in the mental realms and mental body is that we create our entire reality from this place. It is really, incredibly hard for people who are really stuck with a lot of mental energies to understand that their reality is often really far removed from the reality of anyone else, as this group are the ones that create from this place, and because they have so much energy here they are creating their reality based off of thoughts that are far removed from the physical realm (and often logic).

So, back to why I work in an embodied way.

Even though I started with bodywork (and reiki) I did spiritual work in the “core” way that I first learned it. If you read old blogs I talk about my difficulties with that system (mainly because it is a psychotherapeutic method focused on the mental realms and not really spiritual or accessing the spiritual realms) but it is what it is and I am a bit more accepting and less grouchy years later (always interesting when you read a blog you wrote a few years ago).

As I moved through my initial kundalini awakening I was lucky enough to start to get craniosacral therapy and then zero balancing (zb works with the energetics of bones and joints and is a manual therapy, meaning you received skilled touch from someone) and then to receive training in both. When I began processing (working through) my traumas and spiritual patterns such as ancestral history and so forth I began to have big releases in my body. But even more profound is that most of what I worked through if I did so through the physical body would stay gone. They would simply disappear.

Most forms of care only look at the spiritual, or the physical… or sometimes will do two (like mind and body), but if you miss a “body” energies still linger there, and can come about again because the “seed” of it is still there, in one or more of the bodies.

I found that if you work with the spiritual and the mental and emotional (through talking and recognition, basically) through the physical body that my life improved drastically, and large patterns would simply stay gone.

So when I write an article about how important bodywork is, or forms of physical touch that can be helpful with spiritual patterns or spiritual awakenings I invariably get people who go to someone who took a weekend class in craniosacral therapy and then write in to tell me how it didn’t help at all. Or they may go to someone who just doesn’t get that skilled bodywork is an art, not a mechanistic (this for that) and reductionary therapeutic method.

Finding a skilled, knowledgeable, and spiritually aware bodyworker can be difficult. But chances are there is one near you, or somewhat near you. Or that if you go on a vacation somewhere you can see if there is a bodyworker there that is skilled and helpful. But in general I would start by looking for someone that has more than five years of experience (ideally more than 10 if you are going through a difficult awakening or spiritual pattern, certification in whatever they are offering, and an understanding of spiritual energies. I would just be specific and state that “I feel I may have some ancestral or past life issues. Is that something you are comfortable working with?” and see how they react.

Working with people also increases embodiment.

Including people in the process, having them take responsibility for their own healing, and showing them they are capable of doing inner work is incredibly important. To whatever capacity they are able, I always include clients to hear their realizations, understandings, and what they are sensing.

This is not only so they have to reflect inwardly (or so they aren’t bored on the phone/skype with me), but also because the single most difficult thing is to get people to mentally reconcile energies.

Because if something large happens on the spiritual, it cannot filter through unless it does so through the mental body.

And our mental body needs stories and assurances and illusions to be okay. We mentally create so much, and live so inside of our heads, and are frequently so traumatized by life that any sort of perceived change that is happening is perceived as a threat. Because we are used to what we are used to, and if we change spiritually, that may not be true and our lives may change.

And generally the more mentally unstable we are, the more we react to this perceived threat, the more we may lash out or self-sabotage at this perceived threat. The more we may shut down to any sort of perceived change, or become aggressive or reactionary if we hear information that is contrary to the illusions that we have created in order to maintain this semblance of control.

I have been thinking about this topic because when we look at indigenous healers, or folk/traditional healers, there is not this huge need for mental reconciliation of energies. I realized that we as a modern society have become just blobs of energies around our heads for the most part and that if we are more grounded and stable we have less static (or goo, or blockage) because we are more evenly distributed amongst our “bodies”: we don’t have all of our energies in our heads, basically.

I have also been thinking about this because as I get deeper into my practices I realize that there are some people that I cannot help. This realization has come to me before, but when someone is locked into having 99 percent of their energy in their mental body often mental healing must come first. Although I have mixed feelings about therapy personally, as many of my issues required spiritual assistance rather than mental (a good therapist and a good bodyworker are rare gems, but are out there), if someone has more than 95 percent (again, illustrative purposes) of their energy locked in their mental body they need therapeutic intervention/healing, not spiritual (at least not at first), because even if I did spiritual work, the mental body would not allow for it to flow through.

And experience has shown me that the person may perceive the spiritual change as a threat, with a rare few casting me (or anyone else) involved in the situation as a villain or some horrific monster in order to maintain the safety of the known, the illusions already created and settled on in the mind. Or they will cast me as Morpheus to their Neo, further creating illusions that amuse and/or perplex me a bit.

So for most, the mental reconciliation of energies as well as the emotional (didn’t even get to that, but we tend to hold a lot of energies in this area as well that combine with mental energies) is going to be necessary for spiritual energies or change to really have any effect.

And if someone takes care of these bodies by releasing trauma, healing, receiving bodywork, meditating, grounding, physical activity, time in nature, and so forth, that spiritual energies and flows have a much easier time in.

How much someone moves forward, or what they heal while in a session with me always has to do with them (well, 99 percent of the time). And it always has to do with their personal readiness, as well as how much they are willing to let go, to let that controlling and dominant energy field of the mind shift and change and release.

Spiritual work always changes reality. It changes beliefs. It changes what we know to be true about ourselves and the world.

Someone who is more embodied and has more evenly distributed energy is generally healthy and able enough to allow for larger unfoldings and healings… and is able to directly feel spiritual flows and receive spiritual guidance in their lives, unaltered from the perceptions and twistings of the mind acting on that direct gnosis and changing it.

I suppose my end point here is that the spiritual path is one of embodiment. That even if we define ourselves as “spiritual” that our physical bodies matter. That our mind and emotions matter. Without balancing these four spheres, without working with all of them, we are always limited. We cannot expand forward. If we are willing and work towards balance, we will be healthier, freer, and experience continual unfolding and more grace in our lives.